Hi all. Newbie poster but long time lurker here. I just need some advice/feedback..
The situation : been with boyfriend for 1.5 years. We live together and are serious. We are both 30. He's a fantastic guy and we get along amazingly.
The biggest issue that I have is the fact that he has two daughters..
He didn't tell me that he had children when we first started dating (which I'm very angry about, now). There were pictures of them on his Facebook but I was in full time study and work at the time and honestly just didn't notice the pictures.. I don't know how, but it's the truth.
When I did find out he had two children I think I convinced myself that it was fine, and that we would get too serious. Major mistake..
Now that we are serious, it has been bothering me to an obsession level that he has shared this experience before me. Please don't say that I am a bad person for the feelings that I have, my feelings are not towards his kids. It's more The fact that he didn't talk about them.. and now we are serious and for some reason I can't let it go..
Feel like I'm not getting any closure on the matter as I've asked to meet them, countless times. He doesn't have any visitation at the moment as things are rocky with the Mother.
I just feel in limbo. I feel massively torn as dating a father is honestly nothing that I'd ever want. .. but someone I've found myself in a situation where I'm dating one, yet we have never spoken about all of these precious moments that he has had. I don't know how I honestly feel about it because I haven't met them, or seen him with them..
For info: the mother is re married and has another baby. So it isn't like he is trying to get back with her or anything.
Thanks guys for listening, and taking the time to answer.