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Friend's husband and prostitutes

18 replies

freshlemons · 15/05/2017 13:15

I have recently found out that a good friend's husband regularly sleeps with prostitutes when abroad for business trips. About 3 or 4 times a year. They have 2 teenage children and are in a "happy marriage" as far as everyone is concerned. He just happened to let slip to my partner this weekend that he does this when away.

I am not going to tell her, it's none of my business. I can't stop thinking about it though..... what would you do if you know this sort of thing? I am right to keep my mouth shut, to them both aren't I?

OP posts:

Dodie66 · 15/05/2017 13:32

Hope he is using protection. What about STDs?
I would be concerned for my friend.
I don't know what I would do about it though.
What did your partner say?

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 15/05/2017 13:33

I hope she never finds out that you and your dh knew. . .

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freshlemons · 15/05/2017 13:37

Justmade, so do I. I wish I didn't.

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Sunnyshores · 15/05/2017 13:53

If she was a good friend, then Im afraid I would have to tell her.

BillyButtfuck · 15/05/2017 13:53

If she was a good friend I would be planning how I was going to tell her.

Did he say to your DP that she doesn't know? Or not to say?
You never know, they might have some sort of agreement

Spam88 · 15/05/2017 13:55

Awful conversation to have, but I'd have to tell my friend.

Dozer · 15/05/2017 13:57

She is a close friend: I would tell her.

FatOldBag · 15/05/2017 13:59

How did you find out? I'd tell her - why keep his secret for him?

BillyButtfuck · 15/05/2017 14:02

FatOldBag the DH who is shagging around told OPs DP (who presumably told OP)

CalmItKermitt · 15/05/2017 14:03

If she's a friend as opposed to an acquaintance you'll tell her!

Jayfee · 15/05/2017 14:05

I think I'd rehearse some sort of an " don't blokes exaggerate line"....in case he is. But if I was emotionally close enough, I would want to tell her. perhaps imagining if it was your hsband possibly using prostitues might help to decide. she might already know or suspect

Pinkjellybeans · 15/05/2017 14:05

I would tell my friend! Sorry but how can you not? She should know about this absolutely.

DearMrDilkington · 15/05/2017 15:15

Please tell her. Don't let her waste any more years with this slimebag.

MamaAli · 15/05/2017 17:50

If it was me I would want to know. Sorry, I would have to tell her what her husband said.

RedStripeIassie · 16/05/2017 09:03

I would tell her. She needs to know. I'd want to know.

Thinkingofausername1 · 17/05/2017 14:25

I'd want to know. He is putting her sexual health at risk

Leavesandburies · 17/05/2017 14:27

I would be telling any friend the truth in this situation. Because the friend as a person is worth more than even the friendship.

Tootsiepops · 17/05/2017 14:30

Secrets like that dont just slip out.

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