new job?

[Racheyg]

Have been at my existing job for 13 years and I really enjoy the role (although can sometimes be full on) I work 3 days a week, Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. My commute is about 1 - 1 1/2 hrs each way by train and tube.

In my 13 years I've had two children. I've been back 3 months after 10 months mat leave. I'm 33. Oh does bath and ready for bed with dcs when I'm at work and finds it very stressful.

I have had a interview for a job closer to home, (so I can help with bath and bed), but working more days and the money is less I also feel I will be taking a step down the career ladder. Also dcs will have an extra day in nursery.

On the plus side I won't be far from home and oh will be happier.

I'm not sure what to do? Anyone got advice.

I work 3 long and two short days, I don't really feel that the shorts days are advent divisional I thought they'd be in terms of spending time with DD, as the afternoon/evenings are still quite short.

Also check your companies maternity policy as at my work there are rules about leaving and having to pay back mat pay. (OMP not SMP)

I work away from home three days a week. On those days my parents and PiL help, and DH does a lot. It means I can do my dream job and I love it. Thursday and Friday I work from home. I do nursery drop off and pick up and I do a lot. As I do at the weekend.

So it's a balance. However, I always said that I would only do it as long as everyone was happy.

Does your DH not see it as a similar balance? Ie sharing the main care half a week each? If so, then I'd stick with the job you have or look for something that's offers more progression. But then I'm quite career-oriented...

If I was you I'd stay where I am.

Is it going to be a big drop in income if its going to be less money you're earning and you need to pay for more childcare?

I work 2 short days and 2 long days and they aren't much difference in terms of quality time with DC. I think you'd miss your extra 2 days together.

Is your husband getting stressed at bedtime the only reason? I know it's hard on your own but your youngest is still so little, it will get easier as they get older (hopefully!) for him.

I don't have to pay back smp as I only got the government funded one.

I just feel bad for him as I know how hard it is and in a ideal world I would live closer to work.

Maybe I will try and out weigh the pros and cons again?'

I work the same days as you with a similar commute. And 2 dcs. I would like a job closer to home but I do love my job, plus wouldn't want to take a pay cut OR work more days. The commute doesn't really bother me, and I don't think it would make a HUGE difference being closer to home. I take the commute time to wind down on the way home and it enables me to fully switch off from work when I'm home. Does your DH do bath /bed on all 3 of those days?