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So if you'd been summoned by the headteacher.......

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 14:52

Would you a) panic shit, what have they/I done
B) be all pious and presume the absolute best of your DC's
C) think it must be good news -do feel free to share good news summons with me! give me some fucking hope please

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gallicgirl · 13/03/2015 14:54

I'd call the school and ask the reason for the meeting before jumping to conclusions.

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/03/2015 14:55

A).
Is it an urgent summonses?

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 14:56

I did ask and the person who called to make the appointment said they didn't know Confused!!

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 14:56

They rung about 1.30 And asked me to come in at 3.15

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 14:57

That, I am do glad you'd panic too!

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Allice · 13/03/2015 14:57

A for me too. Have been there, hope you're pleasantly surprised.

WaxOnWaxOff · 13/03/2015 14:58

for a 'same day' summons, A.

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 14:59

Were you pleasantly surprised Allice? At this point I'm bloody terrified! Swaying between hysterical giggles and blushing profusely. I must not laugh until I have left the premises

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 15:00

Shit, shit, shit, it's not going to be good is it.

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AhDinnaeKen · 13/03/2015 15:03

ooh - it would be A for me too - but then I do get the fear when I just see a teacher at the end of the day and she says hello to me, worrying she's going to say something awful! (ridiculous really because my kids have never been in any kind of serious trouble!)

Hope it goes better than you think

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 15:05

I am heading off now for my walk of shame, will be back later for full confessional.

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Smartiepants79 · 13/03/2015 15:05

Possibly not going to be good but unless your DC has a history of misbehaving I'd not assume they are the guilty party. It may be that they have been on the receiving and and the head needs to explain what has happened and what they've done about it.

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/03/2015 15:05

Whatever it is,it'll be fine.
If it was too awful they'd have you collect your dc straight away I'd think.
I think I would ring again and ask for them to find someone who can give you the gist of what its about.
I hate starting a meeting on the back foot -makes me feel very defensive.

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/03/2015 15:06

Shit.
Just realised its that time already.

MehsMum · 13/03/2015 15:09

Probably a behaviour issue. But not a world-ending one.

stealthsquiggle · 13/03/2015 15:10

A, but it could well be something that has happened to your DC rather than something they have done.

Crossed fingers - I hope it is a pleasant surprise.

Holepunch · 13/03/2015 15:23

I would think either he'd done something wrong or he'd been the "victim" of anther child's wrong doing.

Either way, I would worry madly, but pointlessly for nearly two hours and then go, planning to listen and support whatever the action the school proposed.

I'd love to think it might be for a "good" reason, but I don't I'm afraid.

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 15:36

I'm mortified. DC2 who is 11 (y6) and a friend were messing around last night and in a totally non malicious way they set up a false account in a teachers name. It was humorous, not nasty and they deleted it very quickly but even so........stuff like that has such serious implications, I'll obviously be explaining all if that to her as will DH. I'd like to ban her from any technology except TV for life but DH thinks that's too long, any suggestions? She is a golden child at school and basically has just even very very silly.

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Floggingmolly · 13/03/2015 15:41

What account? Facebook? Sorry, but "in a totally non malicious way" is total bollocks. Stop making excuses for her Hmm

LittleBairn · 13/03/2015 15:43

I agree that account was set up likely to ridicule the teacher. Minimum 1 month ban fir the computer and heavy online monitoring from now on.

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 15:43

Flogging I am absolutely not making excuses for her, I am livid with her and very disappointed as well as embarrassed. It was not malicious, it was very very stupid. Even the ht has said it was not malicious.

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JugglingLife · 13/03/2015 15:45

Yes, I thought one month ban and no Instagram, they were trying to prank their friends. They adore the teacher involved, certainly wouldn't want to ridicule.

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AhDinnaeKen · 13/03/2015 15:45

Sounds like a big error of judgement and a child not knowing when too far is too far, rather than anything nasty. (I don't think my DS would ever do this, but I do understand the whole taking things too far thing - sometimes he just doesn't think and while I know he doesn't mean anything bad by it, it can seem worse to other people and sometimes does have consequences.)

I think you have to punish relatively severely to make her see that it is actually serious (what if someone had done it to her and hadn't had the sense to take it down quickly, and people had commented, or friends had been hurt etc... A serious talk about social media in general is probably in order too. I think a ban on technology for a month is probably reasonable (if she gets it a lot and a month would hit her hard - you know your own daughter better than anyone else), plus a personal apology to the teacher - preferably verbal or written but at least personally handed over so that she has to face the teacher herself. I'd also maybe say that when she gets the technology back she has to be in your presence when using it - ie. not tucked away in her room out of sight.

Have some Cake and I hope the sick feeling in the pit of your stomach (because I'm sure it's there) goes soon and you can enjoy the weekend. Hopefully your DD is as mortified as you are and that will be a deterrent to ever doing something like this again.

TheHappyCamper · 13/03/2015 15:46

I think more important than the punishment, is that you make your child understand just how 'serious' an offence this is.

Also, punishments should be quite soon after the event but don't need to be long. Maybe 1-2 week ban? Letter of apology to teacher?

WaxOnWaxOff · 13/03/2015 15:46

I'd go for a one month ban and then only supervised use for half an hour a day for the foreseeable future after that. she's obviously not mature enough to use social media responsibly yet.

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