I'm seeing a friend in a couple of days. She has two toddlers. I know that she's had a rough few years, what with having twins, her husband cheating, having to move house because he lost his job and they couldn't afford the mortgage etc. Her started cheating whilst she was pregnant with the twins and she only found out when the twins were 6 months old (it was with one woman as an ongoing thing). My friend does not seem herself again recently and seems very unhappy and shutting herself off. She seems greatful when I visit, and I do try to visit at least every couple of weeks, but she isn't really one to open up. To top it all off, she is now going through menopause so won't be able to have more children and I know would have liked to. Her husband has also told her that she pressured him into having kids.
Ok so when I see her, should I say "you seem really unhappy, do you want to talk or have a moan about anything?" or keep my mouth shut? We are quite close, I've known her for 4 years.