Having a meeting with the ex wife

[BellaB123]

Hi guys. I hope someone can help!!!. I am meeting the ex wife who insisted on meeting me before we move in together, which I totally understand. I have not met the baby yet.The thing is she believes that I am the reason for their divorce and she told my partner that she had a list of things I am not allowed to do with the baby. And my partner will discuss the same with her boyfriend. Please help with how act and what to say to her.

Are you the reason for the divorce? because if there is a baby, it would suggest the split is very recent. If you are a new partner i wouldn't be allowing you to do anything with my child, why would you even want to? Im sorry if that sounds unsympathetic but you have to understand that she is going to be very hurt and upset. She has a new boyfriend already?