In this situation

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What would you do if you DD called you crying saying she has had a letter and her ex is going to put in an issue to court over contact, saying she is having a break down but your friend who haven't seen in years because you dropped her for a man was around,

Would you wait till said friend goes or rush to be with DD and say sorry to friend and call rain check?

A friend would understand that your DD needs you.

I'm assuming you were the friend visiting someone whose DD was having problems?

I'd ask the friend to reschedule.

I'm not sure. If it was a valued friend, who you want to make things up with, then I would maybe wait until friend has gone. I don't think it's clear cut as to what would be right to be honest.

Bloods thicker.....

My dd all day every day

Key phrase is "saying she is having a breakdown." That means go to dd, to be on the safe side. Otherwise, I think I could do both, finish up fried and then do dd.

No im daughter and feeling quite neglected

I'm sorry

You seem pretty mad at her. Is that generally?

I am mad she is my only support and turned up 5 hours later saying what do i expect her to do...

Don't blame her for being your only support - it doesn't mean she has to be at your beck and call.

I dont expect her to be at my back and call, i never ask her for help with anything but this made me very scared and i didnt know what on earth i was ment to do with it, i have hardly no money and my sons dad is a monster, i was just asking for someone to give me a hug and tell me it will be ok!

No, I wouldn't drop everything rush to my adult child over something about which I couldn't immediately help, but I would go over when I'd seen my friend. I would expect my adult child to understand that.

Be thankful she turned up. She probably feels guilty enough about not coming earlier, but she probably also feels guilty enough about mistreating her friend all those years ago. She's in a no win situation, so cut her some slack.

In the situation you describe, I would explain to friend and go to DD.

Are you nearby to your mum?

My mum came immediately to me when my exH left me very suddenly, even though it was quite late at night and she lives 3 hours away. She arrived v early hours of the morning. As did my DBro.

Yes very close, my point in this matter is she will not see this friend for about another 3 years they are not close and i was hurt because i called her crying and she said well theres nothing i can do, our realtionship is abit back to front im usally mum , i go to her at a drop of hat at any given time because i love her and want her to be happy i even dropped out of college when she was depressed because she didnt want to be alone, im always there for here and will be again and again because she is my mum and i want her happy but then the one time i need support ( apparently im the strong one) she wasnt there and i felt very alone

Reasonably I would only drop and run to my grown up kids if they could smell smoke or were in some kind of real and immediate danger.