Hi, my blog is weirdnwonderfuldays, and I'm on facebook at [email protected]. Firstly my children love to tell me what all their friends are permitted to do, in contrast to my dictates. Very cunning. I hold the line anyway, but I don't think you should underestimate the sheer attrition of dealing with teens, and the strain it may impose on your relationships generally. You so need to protect and nurture your marraige/partnership in this context. You will need it!