A teenage relative has had a breakdown, a combination of things but a lot to do with her dad. He thinks when she is 16 he will speak to her about everything and they can start from then. His wife is supportive of this. They have other children who know about her. I feel so sorry for her & I wish I could tell him that she needs him now not when it is easier for him. He has a bitter relationship with her mother mainly because he didn't want to be with her. I have to speak to him but know that might be the end of an already difficult relationship. His mother feels the same but is also worried that it will lead to loss of contact between them.I feel like I must say something for the sake of this child but this could mean the end of contact with his whole family.