Some neighbours of ours are having a really rough time. They're a lovely young couple with three beautiful children but are (amongst other things) really struggling financially. I don't think they are going to have a very nice Christmas. I would love to help and am in a financial position to do so but don't want them to feel patronised or embarrassed. What can I do? I would prefer to do something anonymously (mystery sack of presents on doorstep, cash in blank envelope pushed through letterbox) but will this feel stalkery and / or patronising? Ideas gratefully received.