Its my birthday in two weeks and MIL has taken upon herself to organise a party at her house for me and and another of her friends whose birthday is on the same day. I have only recently had my second child (DS2 will be 3wks old) and although it's a lovely gesture I am not really looking forward to it! Mostly because I know she will expect DH, DS1 (3.11) and DS2 to all stay the night at hers and the fact that I know everyone there will be getting extremely drunk. In fact I almost feel like my birthday was just the 'excuse' she needed to throw a party not because she really cares about what I want to do for my birthday! I am not going to be able to get out of going at this late stage but I am undecided whether we should stay or not. I kinda want to be in the comfort of my home at the moment with a new baby but it would mean either keeping DS1 awake late or putting him to bed at MILs then waking him to get a taxi home (we only live less than 5 mins car ride away). I know MIL and DS would disapprove of this and think it was unnecessary when MIL and SIL are offering us their beds for the night. I don't want to appear ungrateful and I'm sure I'll have a nice time at the party but will no doubt be wanting my bed a lot earlier than the rest of them! So what would you do...???