My wife and I dont get on very well now. We have two kids, 3 and 18months. We've been married 2 yrs and together for nearly 6. We are both pretty stressed out most of the time. I have to work a lot of long and anti social hours - but I have managed to get a new job as of next month that pays less, but should give me some spare time. She works part time, also in a stressful job. Money is tight, and my career change will make things more difficult financially, but I need to try something different. At present I try my best to offer that she gets time alone, take the kids to the park etc, but usually my genuine offers are turned down flat. We dont have sex anymore - its been over 2 years, and even if I attempt to hold her hand or touch her arm she winces and pulls away. She's generally pretty short with me most of the time, and I have started to act the same way in the past few weeks. Its like we are on a downward spiral and there is nothing I can do to stop it. I love her to bits and wish we could be happy.
I would welcome any thoughts. It may help to know that I am not an abusive husband and have not been having an affair. I welcome constructive comment.