So DS2 started school 2 weeks ago. in his class is a little boy we know socially. Not particularly well, a friend of a friend, but I like his mother and we often have a quick chat, have mutual friends etc. DS2 and this little boy (also 4) have never really clicked. Over the summer for example DS2 was saying "Oh no X is in my class".
DS2 has been saying since he started school that none of the boys in his class talk to him or play with him. They all play with X because X is so cool and X doesn't let DS2 play. I'm not too troubled over that - DS2 will make friends he's a confident and outgoing little boy and DS1 is also in the school in year 2 and so far DS2 has played with DS1 and so its not a though he's standing on his own all playtime..
However today DS2 has come home and said that when he goes near him X kicks him and says to him "F off you Fer". DS2 has never used or been exposed to language like this (and in fact asked me what a f*er is!).
My first thought was that I need to mention to the teachers at school. But then I wondered whether I should talk to the mother about it. I really don't know. If I tell school they will tell the parents (but wouldn't mention my name) so it preserves the relationship with the mother. If I tell her it saves school being involved but it would be incredibly awkward to raise.
WWYD?