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AIBU to be getting a bit hacked off with my 'facebook friends' all boasting at 'how great life is' &....

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mytime777 · 20/09/2011 16:06

.... also perhaps feeling a wee bit jealous of their constant pics of their babies, scan photos, etc, updates constantly that they are having days off to spend with their little ones going to the park etc etc.

I am at a stage in life where i just want to start a family and settle down but due to work/job/health issues i cant right now and cant help but get a bit hacked off with every one going on and on!:(

I know it will sound really horrible as I should be happy for people but sometimes you go on facebook to escape your worries/stress/life etc only to almost feel like you having your nose rubbed in it...
I wouldnt mind but for one it seems that everyone is pregnant on there or just had a baby, the ones that are pregnant are always moaning at how 's*!t it is and how bad they feel etc etc . I think it is one of the most important jobs in the world therefore its never going to be ( pardon the pun) a walk in the park'.

Any one else feel the same or am I having a seriously grumpy and down day?!

OP posts:
SwingingBetty · 20/09/2011 16:07

stop going on fb?

happy to help :)

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 20/09/2011 16:10

People talk a load of bullshit on facebook. If your life is so great why feel the need to prattle on about it!!

MuthaInsuperior · 20/09/2011 16:11

People who's lives truly are great do not tend to spent so much time on facebook!

Bunbaker · 20/09/2011 16:12

I have a Facebook account, and on it is...

Nothing

Your friends must have incredibly dull lives if they have so much free time on their hands that they have to make up so much of it on Facebook. I also find other people's Facebook status updates very boring and self important. In fact I only remember to look at it about once a month because I prefer to spend my time on mumsnet doing other things.

Sirzy · 20/09/2011 16:12

If they are friends then as hard as it is surely you should be happy for them. If they aren't friends then delete them from fb!

eurochick · 20/09/2011 16:12

Someone has posted on conception that it should be renamed "reprodutively smug book". I think they might have a point.

NinkyNonker · 20/09/2011 16:13

Fb is tosh, people often exaggerate.

But equally it can feel horrible being pregnant however happy you are about it, people have the right to have a moan. I feel like I've had the hangover from hell all day which is a bit miserable, no moaning on FB though as no-one knows yet.

BakeliteBelle · 20/09/2011 16:15

People tend to present one side of life on FB and it's not the shit bit. Also, I guess when you want to get pregnant, it always seems that everyone else is, which is hard

eurochick · 20/09/2011 16:15

I think I have a sticky "c".

SnakeOnCrack · 20/09/2011 16:18

A couple of my friends have recently had babies and are updating everyone on their kid's nappies, smiles, burps etc (literally).. I like seeing the odd photo or hearing the odd update but when I had my baby, although she became the most important thing in my life, the rest of my life and interests continued.. she wasn't the ONLY thing I could talk about!

Sorry, personal rant which is only vaguely connected to your OP.. ehem.

Meteorite · 20/09/2011 16:18

YABU. Some people think it's impolite to moan, and so they just tell you the good bits.

worraliberty · 20/09/2011 16:18

I think a lot of people put things on Facebook that are not really the 'norm' in their life...but if they do it too often, it looks as though their life is like that all the time.

For example "Oh my Husband is so wonderful, I'm sitting here with my feet up and the drink he made me whilst he's busy in the kitchen cooking dinner for us all."

See that's completely normal in this house so there's no way it would even enter my head to put it as an update Confused

Not that I ever update anyway...think the last time was to say 'Happy Christmas' Grin

Original poster
mytime777 · 20/09/2011 16:19

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack and MuthaInsuperior I think you both have a point!
Those who boast generally tend not to actually be so 'happy or fulfilled' as they make out plus according to their FB are having far too much fun to be updating statuses!!

and eurochick that is sooo right !! :)

OP posts:
minimisschief · 20/09/2011 16:22

but sometimes you go on facebook to escape your worries/stress/life

^facebook is really not the place to do that lol

complexnumber · 20/09/2011 16:23

You are miffed when people post how happy they are...

And you are miffed when people post about difficulties they are experiencing...

Are you possibly difficult to please?

OpinionatedMum · 20/09/2011 16:25

They either get you down by going on about how great their lives are or drag you down with depressing statuses.

How about deactivating your account?

worraliberty · 20/09/2011 16:26

And then again, younger people on their lists will look at "their constant pics of their babies, scan photos, etc, updates constantly that they are having days off to spend with their little ones going to the park etc etc"......

And think 'OMG they've got no life at all!' So it's all relative really Grin

AurraSing · 20/09/2011 16:28

When I was ttc, everyone I saw was pregnant or with a small baby, when I wasn't happy in my job, everyone had fab jobs. And of course the worst- when I had my hair cut short, everyone had long flowing locks(sob).
It happens to us all. Stay away from fb.

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mytime777 · 20/09/2011 16:28

NinkyNonker they do moan too! oh they do!

minimisschief due to my job i have very little time/resource to escape my worries on a day to day basis - so to find a 5 minute window and use it to go on fb to catch up with family etc is what I do as a walk in the park, stroll on the beach isnt possible unfortunately:(

Dont get me wrong we all love a little moan or a boast at something good thats happened but its the same people who seem to do it day in day out on fb.

Perhaps i'm just having a bad day ...
Think i may post about it on FB...;)

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happymole · 20/09/2011 16:39

No one wants to put bad status's (?) unless they are those stupid cyptic ones, which involve no information but lot's of 'i'll inbox you hun'

Example, one time I had d and v, I could put;

I'm poorly and in bed and my fab family are all taking care of me Smile

or

I am poorly. Vomiting meant a loss of control of my bowel muscle so now my husband is cleaning up shit in the conservatory, while trying to lock the dog out. I'm in bed.

HTH

Proudnscary · 20/09/2011 16:41

Log the fuck out

babynamesgrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 20/09/2011 16:41

anyone I know who has a really fantastic life rarely fucks about with the internet. Al the rest of us sad fuckers have to play around online because life is boring!

fanjobanjowanjo · 20/09/2011 16:44

The grass is always greener eh? Just don't bother with it!

cornflowers · 20/09/2011 16:44

I find the constant updaters odd, too. A relative of dh is currently on holiday in the US & has been posting pics of themselves posing in miscellaneous US settings on FB several times a day. Odd.

PopcornMouse · 20/09/2011 16:50

What winds me up is when people post "I'm having a great time doing xyz with abc" and I think, well it's not that great if you'd rather spend time updating fb than actually doing said activity....... :o

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