AIBU to be getting a bit hacked off with my 'facebook friends' all boasting at 'how great life is' &....

[mytime777]

.... also perhaps feeling a wee bit jealous of their constant pics of their babies, scan photos, etc, updates constantly that they are having days off to spend with their little ones going to the park etc etc.

I am at a stage in life where i just want to start a family and settle down but due to work/job/health issues i cant right now and cant help but get a bit hacked off with every one going on and on!:(

I know it will sound really horrible as I should be happy for people but sometimes you go on facebook to escape your worries/stress/life etc only to almost feel like you having your nose rubbed in it...
I wouldnt mind but for one it seems that everyone is pregnant on there or just had a baby, the ones that are pregnant are always moaning at how 's*!t it is and how bad they feel etc etc . I think it is one of the most important jobs in the world therefore its never going to be ( pardon the pun) a walk in the park'.

Any one else feel the same or am I having a seriously grumpy and down day?!

YANBU

I still quite like Facebook for photos and funny updates, but my newsfeed does seem to have been populated by the Stepford wives recently.

"X is so in love with her wonderful husband", "Y has had 5 wonderful years with her beloved man", "Z feels so lucky to be living with her 2 lovely boys."

I have so far managed to resist the urge to respond with "bleeeurgh" to these statuses but it has been tough!

The other bizarre thing I keep getting is this "X is at Waterloo Station" or "Y is at Sennen Cove". Is this an automatic update thing or do people actually take the time to update facebook as to their actual location? I can understand it when it is somewhere nice and interesting but I got one the other day with "Z is at [insert random town name] [insert really dull retailer]". Why do I need to know that? I have never felt the need to stop in the middle of, say Debenhams, fish out my phone and tell the world that "KFP is in Bristol Debenhams". To make it even weirder, the same person then posted pictures of the thing she bought there - an expensive but everyday item, not something that you might genuinely want to admire or be interested in. And several people "liked" it.

I think I might be missing something about the whole Facebook experience.....

Knowing what a load of rubbish facebook is and the struggling type that constantly update it boring everbody around them you would be better of not belonging to it.tell them if they want to get in touch phone or just come round,like any normal human being.

Although at least you have the option of hiding people's Facebook statuses. I had an old housemate who I fell out with because she lost her job, stopped paying the rent and moved out while I was at work, all without telling me. She was incredibly self-centred and managed to be hugely offended that I was mildly miffed at being landed with the last 2 months of her rent, while simultaneously not really taking on board the fact that I was Officially Not Speaking to her.

For about 4 years after I last laid eyes on her she would periodically send me emails telling me how wonderful her life was.

Literally "Dear KFP. I just wanted to let you know that I have an amazing new job. It has a massive salary so I am going on holiday to the Bahamas next month with my wonderful new boyfriend. He is very handsome and wealthy and treats me amazingly.

How are you?

Love
Weird ex-friend

PS I also have a new car. It is a real head-turner and three blokes wolf-whistled at me yesterday."

I never replied and the emails just kept coming. Bizarre. At least if Facebook had been around then I could have just not accepted her friend request!

facebook exists to encourage competative boasting

I lead a very dull life, so refrain from boring my friends to death with my tedious updates. I wish they would do the same for me. There is a certain arrogance in the assumption that everyone you know actually cares that you are on the motorway!

I'm guilty of being happy clappy because I don't want to post all the bad stuff as its private, and I don't want to be a downer, I always try and have a laugh at myself, and make my status's not the ones that make you think "Fucking change your life if its that bad".

YANBU though, recently I posted a relatively happy upbeat status and one woman replied "try working for a living and being a mum"... I let it go. The next day I'd had a SHITE day (ferrying around FIL who has alzheimers with a 3 yr old in tow plus a pletherer of other duties that took time to complete) I'd been out of the house from 8.30am until 8pm, and had more to come, and MEH whatever, I was just narked off with how SLOW these tasks were because they were relatively simple on paper..... anyway, same woman had a go again, same comment 'try doing THAT when you're working full time' and sorry to say but I just wanted to stab her (metaphorically speaking).

You cannot win as a postee, and cannot please everyone all the time, that isn't the point of a FB status.

I have learned, and would suggest that if you're feeling delicate, then hide people who are too happy/whiney, delete people who bug you, and maybe stay away from FB for a while as you're not in the right place to get the most from it?

I know I'm in the minority on MN in rather liking fb, it's an easy way to keep in touch with friends and relatives in faraway places. If you don't like people, don't befriend them. If people you do like in RL have an annoying update habit, hide them. Works for me.

I think the random updates about boring things from mundane places are to do with people getting mobile phone contracts with unlimited internet use. I have had to hide one friend who is constantly doing this and it's because they've just got a new contract and must use it because they spend £35 a month on it.

It is very unlikely that I will ever have another child so if the miracle happens I will post it on facebook and announce it to any passing stranger as soon as i can and as often as I can.

I have a happy life and sometims share that on facebook because quite frankly I have spent years wading through a stinking shitty life and therefore feel I am allowed to relish every moment now. I have to pinch myself sometimes when I think about how well things have turned out in the end.

I will admit that I sometimes have a twinge as I see friends post about new pregnancies, but I recognise that is my problem.

I like facebook for similar reasons as Pelvic.