DM wants to try potty training while I'm in hosp having dc2?

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Let her go for it? Am a bit concerned that this cd blow up in my face ifshegets upset or jealous when income home with baby. But she is 3 in a few weeks and i'd really like to get her doing something on the loo at least. Also need to get a bigger potty as Tommy tip pee ones are too small now. Just think I should have a potty in tv room to get her going as all her toys are there. Can you recommend a bigger potty? Ifu suggest I leave potty training for a bit, how long should I wait afterbirth of dc2?

Nope! Too much change at once, too much to handle for your dd imo.

Wait!

DH tried to potty train DS soon after dd was born, I regret it so much. Another month would have made all the difference.

We stopped for a few weeks then started again and trained him using the loo

I was thinking about trying to train dd1 before dd2. This was foolish for 2 reasons. Firstly dd1 was only 20 months when d2 was born and I blithely accepted my mother's assertions that I was trained at 19 months and it was easy.

Secondly everyone I spoke to said that dd1 would be likely to regress when dd2 arrived. And they were right, even without the toilet training. We went back to a bib and a bottle for a week or so!

I would wait until everything has calmed down and you have time to make a proper fuss of her when she goes.

Can't comment on the timing as I only have one, but I'll tell you this - my mum was fantastic at potty training and as DS is anxious to please her above all others she had almost immediate success.

When is the baby due?

No no no. Not at the same time as you disappear off and return with a new baby, regardless of how old she is. Asking for trouble.

IMO it's much easier having 2 in nappies than dealing with potty training and a newborn. DS2 was 3 months when we trained DS1 and I still wish we'd left it til he was a bit older, although it was complicated because DS1 was unhappy in nappies.

Is your DD interested in training? Unless she is really pushing it I'd leave it a while, it may feel like a big deal now having a 3yo in nappies but in the long run it really doesn't matter if you wait a few months.