I have hit a wall with being a Mum

[theyfuckyouup]

I am a SAHM to three DCs aged nearly 5, nearly 3 and 16 months. I thought I'd be a good mum and I'd love being at home. I'm not and I don't. I used to happily do loads with my children; craft, baking, outings, gardening, playing games, chatting etc but I now I kind of dread and resent it all. When my DH is home I enjoy it more but when I'm on my own I either feel like a zombie-robot Mummy going through the motions, like tears are welling up all the time, or like I'm going to snap and lose my temper. I feel like I'm failing my kids and my husband but although I keep promising to do better I bounce back to feeling the same.

Bohica - do you have a garden you could camp in this weekend? Tell them they could have a practise?
Are your dc's old enough to tell the time? Maybe you could turn all your clocks back an hour if so.......
We've had a good day, went to the park with a few of ds1's friends for his birthday and wore them out.
Tomorrow my bro is coming over so that should be an easier afternoon at home.

How is everyone getting on with their weekends?

I have discovered the solution! Ihave just had the house guests from hell for the weekend. Going back to just us now seems blissful by comparison.

I have listened to my SIL laughing at a "friend" who has read the latest "How To Parent" book and thinks if she follows that all will be well. She then sat and criticised my parenting (not that she has any kids herself) and told me that if I just X, Y and Z like Jo Frost then all would be well.

Strange how the community paediatrician and the clinical psychologist who will be treating my son for his mental health problems don't think it is as simple as that.

I pointed out to her that the problem with Jo Frost is it makes it look like all children's problems are a result of poor parenting and that noone but the parents have an impact on the children's behaviour.

Anyway, my dcs and dh seem great after having her and her partner in the house for the weekend.

Oh Carrots, sorry you had a rough weekend.
Ours was nice. We had my bro over on sat and went to a friends yesterday for drinks. Feeling a bit rough atm, but the kids are still in bed so that's good.

It always amazes me at how much more time and patience I have with other peoples children but always want my own to leave me alone. :-(

Glad you had a good one Silvery. I hope you perk up soon. You were up incredibly early though. Are you not on holiday yet?

Yes, but dp's on earlies so wakes me up crashing about at 5am, so I lay in bed reading until my dsks get up which is 6 at latest!

Just been doing some housework this morning. Ds2 is now asleep on the sofa and ds1 is playing his ds and then I think we shall play a game, have some lunch, read some books and might pop to the park before dinner. (If ds1 ever gets dressed that is)

Yes, but dp's on earlies so wakes me up crashing about at 5am, so I lay in bed reading until my dsks get up which is 6 at latest!

Just been doing some housework this morning. Ds2 is now asleep on the sofa and ds1 is playing his ds and then I think we shall play a game, have some lunch, read some books and might pop to the park before dinner. (If ds1 ever gets dressed that is)

Oh dear God! I have just had my SIL on the phone in tears because dh told her this morning how insulting she had been to us at the weekend.

I know my dh meant well, and I know my SIL should probably be made aware of her behaviour before she does the same to her friends but really?

I should have at least had some warning and some choice in what was said and how it was said.

This experience really does make me more appreciative of our own little unit, despite its woes!