On leaving toddler group yesterday with DS another mum saw me putting DS into his rear facing seat (he's a large 2 year old) she laughed and said she's seen it all. That's fine each to their own, she then pointed at her own car parked behind me and said "DD doesn't even have seat, I just pop her in the back with a lap belt!" This was said all very cheerily, she even added that she considered herself to be a very careful driver and she guessed it was down to relaxing standards when you have a 2nd child. I said I was horrified at which she responded that she occasionally put her in her brother's high backed booster on the way back from doing the school run. I think her brother is about 5/6 but her DD is only 2.5 and much smaller than my DS.
The final part is that her car is a soft top convertible (marque 1/2 Golf) so if she were to have an accident I can't bear to think what would happen to her.
I don't think AIBU to be shocked and sickened that someone would laugh about putting their child at risk like this and that's not what I'm asking. It's just that on telling the story to DH last night he immediately said I should tip off the police comparing it with someone leaving the pub over the limit and about to drink drive.
Would you tell the police, it's going to be pretty obvious that it came from me which could make things rather awkward in our small village community but obviously if that helps a child stay alive in an accident then that is a small price to pay.