I live on a traveller site AMA

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Well exactly that really got a spare bit of time and I know with some of the recent ridiculous tv shows I thought I’d see if I could answer a few myths and questions. I will say my partner is a traveller I am not but am married into the community which in itself is rare

I call them the posh school lower sixth bullies. They turn up to every discussion with their strident opinion stated as fact manner, boss everyone about and make snarky comments to anyone who dares to disagree.

Ooh, Lord save us from (strident) opinions!
Opinions that i don’t like!

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There’s many more, show ground people, circus, fairground, water gypsies or barge/boat men, Roma… that’s not an exhaustive list because there’s others as well as groups you identified. The problem is the TV doesn’t do documentaries about quiet law abiding citizens because there’s no viewing figures in that!

I forgot all of those!

There was a site next to the Severn I used to walk past where you could be blinded by the sun shining on the polished brass! The place was completely immaculate.

But from reading the thread, most posters are commenting from their own experiences and observations not from the TV shows

And then toilet in a park.

I think the ' spotless' relates to their own areas-so inside their own caravans, maybe if they own a traveller site but because the local park etc isn't theirs, all the rubbish goes there.

Thank you! That's interesting x

Thanks for this thread. Really enjoying your answers and the (good faith) questions.

Thank you for this interesting thread. I havent got a clue about 21st century traveller communities.
Is your site like a campsite that people, large families, live on permanently? Do you live there permanently? Do other people live there permanently? Is it the same people all the time or do people come and go to live on other sites at different places? Do some people live travelling around all the time/some of the time?
If people are travelling around, how do they support themselves, how do they get food? How do they get money for what they need?

@namechange2026198 how did your inlaws behave towards you when they weren't accepting of you being married to your husband?

What do Hasidic women wear that is so obvious

Wigs and/or tichel or snood or some other form of head covering for married women, for a start. Dresses that cover knees, collarbones, elbows, often monochrome, generally not in bright colours. Flat shoes, often flesh-coloured tights.

These threads always start off so well and then get spoiled by a few posters asking the same stupid question on repeat, filling up the thread by asking the op why some travellers leave rubbish around, like she is accountable for that. In other traveller threads, people latch on to the fact that some kids leave school early, but as OP's kids are at uni, she has been spared that this time. Instead people are harassing her about littering!

If someone has already asked a question, why do 10 more people need to repeat it? And then keep repeating it? I expect OP doesn't leave rubbish around the place, she lives on a permanent site anyway, and she probably isn't going to condone that behaviour, so what do you expect her to say?? Really? Now she has gone and the posters who have actually posted interesting questions about her lifestyle won't have their questions answered. Stop using these threads to vent your personal feelings about a few individual groups who may leave litter behind them. This isn't the OP and she isn't responsible for them!!

It's frustrating as inevitably the OP leaves and we don't get to carry on the thread.

I was 4 when I first met my husband. Been with him since I was 17. I’m not a traveller, so what’s your point?

Proper childhood sweethearts. I love that.

Not in my experience, there are two largish sites about five miles radius of my home, and one, what I might describe as a homestead with two chalets, stables and touring vans on hard core. All immaculate: smart brick walls and wrought iron gates, lovely decs at Christmas. One of the bigger sites has a gypsy king, allegedly, who has a huge palatial chalet. This family run snack bars at car boots and horse shows, the other big one are horse dealers and have a used car garage and the homestead have pacers (trotting horses). All have council bins, postal addresses and VERY smart cars. I’ve seen shabbier sites but a long time ago. The worse mess I see is after festivals like Reading and Glastonbury when people (not just kids) just walk off and leave their mess including nappies and condoms.

I’ve seen that too in my former hospital, huge tribe turns up, in the canteen they monopolise about 6 tables, very loud, racist comments about black staff. They were Irish travellers ( v obvious Irish accents). An Irish colleague said he was embarrassed hearing them.

I think people on this thread are still mixing up Romany people ( the OP married into this group ) with Irish Travellers.
This is unfair on the OP.

I find it so interesting that you live in such close quarters with relatives and there must be a lot of up sides (and down sides too). If you're settled, do you ever move (as other people move house?)? Like, to a different site across town or to a bigger place, and what happens to the relatives? Do they all move at the same time?

The OP didn't say the were Romany till 3 pages in and multiple replies later. Unless people are reading all her posts, they might have missed it.

I agree and sorry if I’ve contributed to the confusion.

Why. Do you always leave your rubbish behind for council tax payers to clear?