I had a threesome with my partner and another woman, AMA

[AzureLeader]

I had a threesome with my male partner of 2 years and another woman. We are both in ours 40s. AMA.

Why?

Where did the other woman come from, did you know her?

Did you feel left out of the equation or was attention shared equally?

I had some experiences with women in my 20s but never felt I'd had enough confidence back then to really enjoy it. We both would talk about it during sex. We then decided to make the fantasy a reality.

No we found her using a dating app. Our profile was clear in what we were looking for. We spoke in a WhatsApp group for around 1/2 weeks before meeting up.

Afterwards my partner said he initially felt left out.

Ah interesting. I did wonder if that might be the case in a ffm threesome. Thanks for sharing.

Was it a bit awkward having sex with her so quickly considering neither of you know her?

Is it something you would do again?
Would you change it up and add a man?
are you still in contact with the woman?

It was a difficult one to get right. I'd said at the start that I wasn't comfortable with either of us building too much of an emotional connection, however, I have never had a one night stand as I need a level of intimacy first. We also understood that anyone we met would want to get to know us aswell. We spoke to quite a few women who said they'd always had that fantasy. After talking for a bit, either myself, my partner or the other woman would decide not to take things further. The woman we met up with was really clear with what she wanted. The sex was good, but we both said that its hard to really enjoy something with a stranger/ the first time with someone new etc. It wasn't awkward though.

We aren't in contact with her. We all checked in with each other the next day and then said we'd part ways. She was planning on meeting a guy for a first date the next weekend.

Neither of us want another man.

Initially we wanted to give it another go to see if we could try anything different this time around. It all happened in a little bit of a blur. But some problems came up between us in the 2 weeks that followed, some insecurities, and we've decided to keep things between ourselves for a while. It consumed us for about 6 weeks, creating dating profiles, online dating as a couple, bringing people into WhatsApp groups. It took so much communication and trust, it was exhausting 😄

So what kind of problems came up and did either of you regret it?

Something tells me that wasn't part of his fantasy. He thought both women would be servicing him simultaneously, rather than them enjoying themselves.

Was she better looking that you?