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I am highly intelligent, ask me anything

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nolinkname · 22/02/2026 09:01

Using standard IQ scales/assessments I am highly intelligent. I have also done some research into high intelligence. Being highly intelligent has advantages and drawbacks. Ask me anything :-)

(Just to preempt some comments: No, I don’t think intelligent people are better human beings than other people. I think qualities such as being kind are more important for example. No, intelligent people are not always ‘better for society’, there is some evidence, for example, that really highly intelligent people carry out proportionally somewhat more crimes (white collar). No, I don’t look down on less intelligent people (sometimes I envy them), but it can obviously be a bit difficult to connect if you have very different frames of reference. No, intelligence does not have any direct links to social skills (positive or negative).)

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IfThen · 22/02/2026 10:01

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 09:59

I've read a lot of research articles discussing the fact that many people struggle to find equal/good/fruitful human connections, so I believe it is a case for many, but obviously not to everyone.

But what is your own experience?

ETA It seems fairly clear to me that unless there’s something else at work here preventing it, it’s easy enough to use your intelligence to befriend other highly intelligent people, if that’s what you want. If circumstances had meant that you did badly at school, and didn’t get to university at all, I can see it would potentially be harder, unless you found another social context in which you found your tribe.

Owly11 · 22/02/2026 10:01

Why don't you want to disclose your IQ?

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 10:02

ThiagoJones · 22/02/2026 09:50

The thing is, I doubt people really think much about you at all. I’m not saying that to be cruel, just pointing out that your ‘high intelligence’ will be far more important to you than anyone else.

I think most people think about people they meet and people they know. I have a lot of thoughts about my friends. (Obviously I did not mean how people who post here think about me.)

My high intelligence is not that important to me, but I've often been asked about it, unfortunately. I prefer to talk about other things with real people and friends.

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CamillaMcCauley · 22/02/2026 10:03

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 09:59

I've read a lot of research articles discussing the fact that many people struggle to find equal/good/fruitful human connections, so I believe it is a case for many, but obviously not to everyone.

Hard to find even if you belong to a club like Mensa, specifically made for high-intelligence people?

SyntheticFluff · 22/02/2026 10:03

Indianajet · 22/02/2026 09:55

I have often debated that with my sons!

At the bottom, surely? Wearing it at the top would be the equivalent of a human wearing a tie under their jaw rather than resting between their collarbones. See! I'm very intelligent 😏.

Gettingbysomehow · 22/02/2026 10:03

WHAT......is the capital of Assyria?

Nearly50omg · 22/02/2026 10:03

I’ve a very high iq and wonder what on earth this is about?!!!🤷‍♀️ lots of us are highly intelligent but we don’t go round crowing about it and putting up posts saying oh I’m so clever!

OtterlyAstounding · 22/02/2026 10:03

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 09:57

I don't necessarily mean when I explain things, but when someone else explains something and a group of people are learning it (trying to learn it). This can be in an education setting or in a work setting. I often get new information/ideas/concepts very quickly and have to wait for others to 'catch up'.

I think I'm a reasonable teacher. I have been very appreciated by many students at different levels, super clever ones as well as people who struggle, but who really want to learn.

Oh, that never bothers me when it happens in the handful of things I'm notably above average in - I just use the opportunity to do something else until everyone is caught up.

A good teacher is always appreciated.

I'm still keen to know if you believe trans women are women.

Sskka · 22/02/2026 10:03

How often do you encounter people who are more intelligent than you? How do you find it?

dragonfruit8 · 22/02/2026 10:04

I have a MENSA level IQ. I used to take pride in it when I was young and thought it meant something. I went to university in my mid-teens. Now I know you can train yourself to do better in IQ tests and that some people have huge IQs but just don't do well in tests. I also know that autistic people tend to have spiky profiles across the areas so, while you can give them an average, it doesn't really mean anything if one area is 150 and another is 110. IQ is BS.

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 10:05

JLou08 · 22/02/2026 09:56

Do you think there is a link between high intelligence and narcissistic personality disorder? Are there links with high intelligence and other mental health conditions?

IIRC - I am not sure - there is something about that in The Psychology of Intelligence by Sonja Falck. She was also the one who taught me that very highly intelligent people commit slightly more crimes (white collar).

Interesting book although I don't agree with all conclusions.

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Designless · 22/02/2026 10:05

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 09:13

So I tried to put in the OP that I mean 'IQ style assessments', getting connections easily, understanding a lot of things quicker than most people etc. Of course there are things I don't get too.

It's helped me in life since I've generally found it very easy to learn things. I have four postgraduate degrees, I've studied because it's fun and I learn things.

More quickly.

You might be good at anticipating "which shape is next!" in the pointless iq tests but you don't write like a particularly intelligent person.

I bet you are at uws or something.

MissMoneyFairy · 22/02/2026 10:06

Are you using your intelligence and PhD to improve and benefit the lives of others

RememberBeKindWithKaren · 22/02/2026 10:06

Can I ask what you make of the posts in Mumsnet such as " I can't get worried about men's issues " or " I don't really like men at all" .

Do you understand where the asker's are coming from in posting them ?

Designless · 22/02/2026 10:06

It is definitely a trait of a certain type of woman to "collect" degrees (look at me NOW, mummy)

thedramaQueen · 22/02/2026 10:06

My first thought seeing this thread, it's not that intelligent starting a thread claiming to be highly intelligent...just a thought. Let's see how this goes!!

MissingSockDetective · 22/02/2026 10:06

How would you solve the SEN crisis in a way that helps all children in education?

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 10:08

IfThen · 22/02/2026 10:01

But what is your own experience?

ETA It seems fairly clear to me that unless there’s something else at work here preventing it, it’s easy enough to use your intelligence to befriend other highly intelligent people, if that’s what you want. If circumstances had meant that you did badly at school, and didn’t get to university at all, I can see it would potentially be harder, unless you found another social context in which you found your tribe.

Edited

I thought I started out by saying that I think it is often difficult to find people at a similar 'thinking level'. I have many friends but that has often been down to me being very good at keeping in touch.

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AgnesX · 22/02/2026 10:08

Have you any common sense. I've met many intelligent people over the years. Specialists and degrees etc coming out the ears but their apparent ability to manage on the same plane as us mere mortals is non existent.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 22/02/2026 10:09

Do you think that you struggle to connect with others because of your high intelligence?

Or do you think it might just be because of poor social skills or a perception on your part that less intelligent people aren't worth the effort? Or perhaps some other factor?

If you do think that your high intelligence is what makes it difficult to connect with others, what do you make of the fact that some highly intelligent people don't experience any difficulties in connecting others of varying intelligence levels? What is it that makes those individuals different in your opinion?

Also, why do you think "being highly intelligent" has become such an important part of your identity? You must be very focused on that aspect of yourself to have started a thread like this. Why do you think that might be the case?

OtterlyAstounding · 22/02/2026 10:09

Nearly50omg · 22/02/2026 10:03

I’ve a very high iq and wonder what on earth this is about?!!!🤷‍♀️ lots of us are highly intelligent but we don’t go round crowing about it and putting up posts saying oh I’m so clever!

It's a little odd, especially as the OP hasn't actually shared anything interesting. Placing so much importance on 'high intelligence' seems rather emotionally stunted, imo.

Frankly, I think I'd rather spend time with Karl Pilkington (IQ of 83) than a random 'highly intelligent' person, though. Now there's a man with something interesting to say!

MabelAnderson · 22/02/2026 10:09

Indianajet · 22/02/2026 09:55

I have often debated that with my sons!

It depends on the collar..

DrivewayAtMidnight · 22/02/2026 10:09

Kirk or Picard?

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 10:10

FlatErica · 22/02/2026 09:58

How many times have you published in the top five journals in your field?

I haven't been in academia all that long, I had another career previously, and have spent a lot of time teaching, so not many! Teaching often feels more interesting than producing yet another paper... I really like interacting with people, exploring concepts, ideas and the world and seeing people learn.

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ObsessiveGoogler · 22/02/2026 10:11

I’d like to ask about social interactions. I work in a field with a lot of highly intelligent people (a quantitative field of academia) and while I have never done an IQ test would say I am maybe “brighter than average” - certainly nothing special. The difference is clear when talking about their specialist areas, but socially when we are talking about current affairs, politics or life in general I don’t “feel” the difference. Do you feel difference in intelligence in normal interactions and how?