I'm just an average gypsy AMA

[GypsyAMA]

I've noticed a lot of hatred towards gypsies on here so I thought I'd answer any questions anyone may have that could help you to understand my culture more. You might still disagree with many aspects, but at least you'll be coming from facts and not stereotypes.

She won't answer any of the tough questions.

But in the programme you're talking about, the boys were allowed to do whatever they wanted, and often went into town to meet other girls, despite being married?

Why would you discourage your children from secondary and higher education?

Do you not agree with school environments or is it because they would have sex education lessons?

I'd like to know if OP wishes she'd been born outside of this community and if she could say who from the wider community does do the things so many have seen such as recreation grounds chewed up by vans, kids' football pitches ruined for a whole season and as previously stated , human waste left.
I'd love to know how OP's life might be blighted by that experience so many people know of. As well as the education , or lack of for girls. If these get answered it would be a fantastic AMA

Would children be allowed to have sleepovers with family or friends? Thanks

Come on... the OP can't be expected to provide an answer to 'why are some members of your community bad people/vandals/thieves?' - I'd hazard a guess that this is the reason she's being selective. There is no answer.

Plenty of people in the non Gypsy community are all of the above - would anyone expect me to answer why there are so many non Gypsy drug dealers, rapists, murderers? I only have one answer to that question - some people are bad, regardless of race, ethnicity, or socioeconomics.

I have a question for you OP - is 'grabbing' a thing that actually happens frequently? I remember seeing it on 'big fat gypsy weddings' back in the day and wondered whether it was more of a drama for the show, or whether it was common practice

Also - would you be happy for one of your kids to date a non Gypsy? How about just close friends?

I'd love to ask a few questions- I'll put them into separate posts so it's easier to respond -

Are you and your community catholic? If not, is there a religion?

How is domestic abuse handled in your community?

Do you have any close friends who are not from your community?

Are you and family a travelling family, or now "settled"?

Do you not think, perhaps, that we are entertaining a gorger, unawares?

OP has buggered off anyway.

There was a similar thread to this a few years ago that was really interesting and the OP came across really well. I forget her name now but she seemed lovely and if I remember correctly she wanted more for her own children while also being respectful of her background/religion.

Yes I remember that, she was really interesting.

This is not that.

As a culture and as a society you appear to hold strong values and require conformity to them. Why then are some of your members allowed to behave so poorly on public and private land? Is it because these activities are not “taboo”, and why is that? Locally there was a lot of trouble with a gypsy “marrying out” and this was dealt with severely by the local gypsy population. But there doesn’t seem to be a similar happening about vandalism and desecration of local parks and cemeteries. Why is this?

How do they know you're 'gypsies'?

What a coincidence. I have had a very unpleasant experience today when some gypsies who did rubbish work on my house last year have turned up demanding money and threatening to come back after putting a curse on my husband, upsetting the neighbour by splashing white paint on his brown car then squaring up to him, and trying to take me to a cashpoint because they "had a little problem" and could only be paid in cash, but wouldn't provide an invoice. I can't be bothered to type out all the lies they told me, but they have frightened me today turning up a year later and they are utter scum. They think because I have a "nice house" I have money to throw away but I actually pay tax and medical insurance unlike them. I've seen their Instagram and Facebook posts in suits and "fancy" clothes where they say they've studied at the Sorbonne and Harvard and are CEOs of Rolex. I get it must be hard when you've not been to school but it is really not possible to be truthful?

I really respected how the girls were not to be alone with a boy. I don’t mean to be antagonistic but there is a great deal of promiscuity in today’s society.

I am not a prude, by any means. And I’m not looking for an argument re casual sex.

I would prefer my DC to have a long-term relationship.

And I admired the girls for being house-proud.
Yes, they could stay in school and get a good job but it’s not what they do.

It’s difficult to explain what I mean, really.
I think what I’m trying to say is that I respect the decisions they make re marriage and keeping a home.

Both the young men and women seemed to be fully committed to their role and I think that is what I admire.
Sorry if I haven’t explained the very well.

I've encountered traveller families on permanent sites that are like pristine holiday parks with toilet blocks etc.
But then the travelling ones who access land without permission and trash it. Leave a ton of waste & human toilet waste. Grim. Someone has to pay to clear up. Most seem to work cash in hand too. And yes I've witnessed whole families doing a runner from restaurants frequently when I worked in that trade.
Are these different types?

My aunt was taken to a cash machine and forced to 'buy' a mattress many years ago. She was terrified. 4 men walked her down the road to the cash machine.

So much respect for doing this thread 💖

The stereo types seem so hurtful and I'm guessing you would want them to stop but is there anything else that you think would make your life easier? Or help bridge that gap between gypsies and non gypsies??