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I'm a practising Muslim, ask me anything...

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tt9 · 02/06/2023 12:20

For context, I am late 30s female practising Muslim medical professional and have been practising for most of my adult life (to varying degrees).

Feel like a lot of people have questions that they don't ask as they fear causing offence. also there are some commonly held beliefs regarding muslims/Islam that are urban myths... so ask away. no question too offensive

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tt9 · 05/06/2023 00:17

KissyMissy · 04/06/2023 23:00

Very interesting thread!
Thank you

glad you are enjoying it! x

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tt9 · 05/06/2023 00:22

Yolo12345 · 04/06/2023 23:03

Are you for or against capital punishment - if there were a referendum on it in the UK, which way would you cite?

there is capital punishment within shariah law. but... that only applies within an Islamic state... and one can only have an Islamic nation if the population want it + truly follow Islam (which at present is not the case, truly devout followers are one in a million. People might do the external rituals but to have a true Islamic character - selflessness, total honesty no matter the consequence, absolute fairness etc is very very hard). for example someone has ever lied in their life, they cannot be a Qadi or Islamic judge or member of a jury! who will we find in to fulfil that criteria? so if there was a referendum I would vote no due to the risk of injustice/false conviction. although maybe exceptions can be made when there is complete proof beyond any doubt for really messed up cases eg. serial killers/terrorists/child abusers?

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tt9 · 05/06/2023 00:25

Norfolkbumpkin · 04/06/2023 23:06

Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions, it's really interesting and gives us a greater understanding of Muslim culture/beliefs. A very dull question from me: when you are at home with your own family day to day, do you remove your head covering? If yes, do you then quickly put it on to answer the door to say, the postman etc?

I don't wear it in front of my family at home or if I am in a woman only environment. but would quickly pull a hijab on if answering the door to postman etc. I also wear it for prayers.

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tt9 · 05/06/2023 00:27

fairywhale · 04/06/2023 23:25

There is very little truth in what you are saying.

I respect your right to believing whatever you feel appropriate :-)

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tt9 · 05/06/2023 00:28

AnElegantChaos · 04/06/2023 23:30

What a fascinating thread, thanks OP.

Glad you are enjoying it! :-) x

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Dintananadinta · 05/06/2023 00:30

what do you think about your non Muslim friends/colleagues going to hell? I am a good person and I have had Muslim friends that have wronged me but I am going to hell as I'm not Muslim?

tt9 · 05/06/2023 00:33

MrsCatE · 04/06/2023 23:55

This is really interesting.
Re Mecca and Kaaba - how does that not conflict with idolatry? As I understand it, Islam is completely against that and unfortunately (perhaps due to misinterpretation) has led to the destruction of numerous, ancient Stupas, temples - some 5000 BC.

just wanted to clarify.... we are definitely not worshipping the Kaaba. its the direction we face when we pray. initially it was towards Al Aqsa mosque in Jerusalem but this was changed through direct revealation.

Muslims historically have preserved and protected places of worship belonging to other faiths. recently the fanatics of isis etc have destroyed a lot of historical artefact including sacred relics and mausoleums of islamic origin. These people as far from Islam as the kkk are far from Christianity.

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RustyFaridabad · 05/06/2023 00:34

What ethnicity are you?

I have a few Muslim friends with different ethnicities and they are all so different in the way they practice Islam.

tt9 · 05/06/2023 00:39

Dintananadinta · 05/06/2023 00:30

what do you think about your non Muslim friends/colleagues going to hell? I am a good person and I have had Muslim friends that have wronged me but I am going to hell as I'm not Muslim?

only God decides who goes to heaven or hell. who is to say God will not accept you? who is to say God will forgive your friends for whatever wrong they did towards you. one thing that is stated clearly is anyone who has wronged a person will be punished for that (either in this life or next) unless the person they wronged forgives them!

when I pray, I usually pray for all of humanity/ the people around me regardless of faith to be forgiven and accepted into God's Grace. He is All Merciful.

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tt9 · 05/06/2023 00:40

RustyFaridabad · 05/06/2023 00:34

What ethnicity are you?

I have a few Muslim friends with different ethnicities and they are all so different in the way they practice Islam.

I'm Bangladeshi. yes it is an extremely diverse faith :-)

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SaxSick · 05/06/2023 00:40

tt9 · 04/06/2023 04:34

Muslims can be of any nationality or race so there is no restriction as to which culture/ethnicity one marries into. in fact nationalism/racism is forbidden in Islam as all people should be treated equally.

part of the islamic marriage ritual is reading the proclamation of faith. so it is not practically possible to marry a non Muslim as they would have to read the proclamation of faith as part of the marriage ritual. and Muslims have to undertake the Islamic ritual for the marriage to be valid. also if someone is practising, it is pretty hard to live with and raise children with someone who is not. I had a partner who was a semi religious muslim at one point and it was a total disaster! obviously if a Muslim is not practising then this is irrelevant.

I unfortunately am not able to have children, but if I was in that position, I wouldn't stand in the way. however I could not give them my blessing either as they would be effectively leaving the faith? I would still of course welcome the other half with open arms. we have had such marriages in our family and we just treat them the same as everyone else (drown with food and make sarcastic comments).

It is interesting to hear your points and again reminds us that as in every religion there are varying viewpoints. I knew many couples who were married and the women were not Muslims. They may dress a certain way in certain situations - the most I knew was a head covering eg a scarf not hijab if in a public place. In fact it is legal for Muslim men to marry non Muslim women in both Saudi Arabia and the UAE - the two places I am familiar with.

MrsCatE · 05/06/2023 00:56

@tt9 really appreciate your clarification but isn't the Kabaa meant to contain relics / stones?

tt9 · 05/06/2023 01:01

MrsCatE · 05/06/2023 00:56

@tt9 really appreciate your clarification but isn't the Kabaa meant to contain relics / stones?

there is the hajre aswat (a black stone) outside the Kaaba, but we do not worship it. inside is empty. the Kaaba is holy and a means of receiving divine blessing, but an object or worship in itself. also very very few people would have the opportunity to enter the Kaaba

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ohsuzannah · 05/06/2023 01:05

Do you think Moslems are cleaner than most British people? I'm thinking of the special hygiene before meals, shoes off etc.

ohsuzannah · 05/06/2023 01:06

Sorry for the mis-spell 🤦🏽‍♀️ autocorrect!

tt9 · 05/06/2023 01:26

ohsuzannah · 05/06/2023 01:05

Do you think Moslems are cleaner than most British people? I'm thinking of the special hygiene before meals, shoes off etc.

without some sort of study can't really say. I think cleanliness is very individual. Islam does say that cleanliness is half of the faith. if Muslims followed all the islamic laws re cleanliness they would certainly be very clean. but this is not the case. I have seen cleanliness and lack of hygiene in equal amounts in both Muslim and non Muslim homes.

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Friendofdennis · 05/06/2023 01:29

How can the Christian God and Allah be the same entity as you say. For Christians the main focus is Jesus Christ as Saviour and Redeemer as the Son of God. I believe that in Islam Jesus is seen as a prophet but not the son of God or Saviour

Flunkey · 05/06/2023 09:10

This is such a good thread. Questions being asked respectfully and answered with grace.

This is the kind of dialogue the world needs. I wish Putin could listen and learn like this.

tikkityboo · 08/06/2023 23:35

Hi
This is a really interesting and insightful thread looking at both the external but also the internal, more spiritual elements of Islam.Thank you so much OP. I hope I'm not too late to ask a few questions.

Why is cremation not allowed in Islam, what's the reason for forbidding it. I understand that there is the belief that the angels visit the grave of a deceased person to ask questions about conduct and belief, and that at the day of judgement the soul rises. I still don't see why a body can't be cremated.

I understand that women are not present when the body is buried in the grave as its forbidden, or if not forbidden, it's frowned upon in Islam. I'd be interested in your views OP. I think the lack of women present when the body is being buried is based on an interpretation of Islam or cultural practice, so not widespread in Islam. Surely it should be up to the women if she wants to attend. I've heard it is because women are thought of as too emotional and such tribulations should not be expected on women. Very patronising, I find.

My understanding is that women can't pray namaz or read the Quran when they are on their period. I definitely don't think a woman should be expected to, particularly if she is in pain/tired etc but if a woman wanted to pray or read the Quran [if this particular form of worship gives her peace] and felt able to when on her period, what is the reason why she cannot. Is it in the Quran or a rule imposed from a male perspective.

I was also interested when you said you had read the Old Testament and New Testament as well as the Quran to gain deeper insight and awareness.

You mentioned books and scholars when you researched Islam, are you able to share some names or references that helped your understanding of Islam, if that's ok. I absolutely respect your perspective, and agree with a lot of what you have said.

mids2019 · 10/06/2023 11:38

Do Muslims as a whole support our armed forces as defenders of our security and state interests? one local (and unfair) criticism of Muslim communities is lack of presence in such community events such as remembrance day and poppy wearing.

I suppose a parallel question is what are Muslim thoughts about history in UK schools being dominated by UK history which ultimately has a Christian cultural influence e.g. the reformation, formation of the CofE, conflict between Protestantism and Catholicism? Similarly literature in English schools is dominate by the titans of British literature (Shakepeare, Dickens, Milton etc.) so would you think Muslims would like our curricula to extend towards literature from Islamic cultures and the history of such regions as Saudi Arabia?

tt9 · 10/06/2023 15:49

Hello peeps. apologies for being behind with questions. Will be back with responses this evening. thank you for all the lovely questions!

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tt9 · 10/06/2023 22:43

Friendofdennis · 05/06/2023 01:29

How can the Christian God and Allah be the same entity as you say. For Christians the main focus is Jesus Christ as Saviour and Redeemer as the Son of God. I believe that in Islam Jesus is seen as a prophet but not the son of God or Saviour

Hi, I am so sorry I completely missed your post! ok... so probably I didn't explain my position very well. if we accept God's existence is objective reality. He (God has no gender, but we are limited by English) must be by definition beyond the understanding of His Creation. so whatever conceptualisation we have of Him is subjective and limited by our capacity. and if we accept that revealations have come through various messengers over the years... and people have interfaced with these messages in different ways and therefore this has also affected our conceptualisation of God. Who He is... the manner of His Being... are not ideas most people think about a lot. theologians and philosphers have written a great deal about this. and the conceptualisation can vary a great deal even within a religion and ultimately we can all have a very personal relationship with God and everyone of us think of Him differently. But this doesn't change the objective Reality of God. hope that clears it up x

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tt9 · 10/06/2023 22:45

Flunkey · 05/06/2023 09:10

This is such a good thread. Questions being asked respectfully and answered with grace.

This is the kind of dialogue the world needs. I wish Putin could listen and learn like this.

I'm really glad you are enjoying it. I agree... good intentions andncivility would solve a lot of the world's problems

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tt9 · 10/06/2023 23:27

tikkityboo · 08/06/2023 23:35

Hi
This is a really interesting and insightful thread looking at both the external but also the internal, more spiritual elements of Islam.Thank you so much OP. I hope I'm not too late to ask a few questions.

Why is cremation not allowed in Islam, what's the reason for forbidding it. I understand that there is the belief that the angels visit the grave of a deceased person to ask questions about conduct and belief, and that at the day of judgement the soul rises. I still don't see why a body can't be cremated.

I understand that women are not present when the body is buried in the grave as its forbidden, or if not forbidden, it's frowned upon in Islam. I'd be interested in your views OP. I think the lack of women present when the body is being buried is based on an interpretation of Islam or cultural practice, so not widespread in Islam. Surely it should be up to the women if she wants to attend. I've heard it is because women are thought of as too emotional and such tribulations should not be expected on women. Very patronising, I find.

My understanding is that women can't pray namaz or read the Quran when they are on their period. I definitely don't think a woman should be expected to, particularly if she is in pain/tired etc but if a woman wanted to pray or read the Quran [if this particular form of worship gives her peace] and felt able to when on her period, what is the reason why she cannot. Is it in the Quran or a rule imposed from a male perspective.

I was also interested when you said you had read the Old Testament and New Testament as well as the Quran to gain deeper insight and awareness.

You mentioned books and scholars when you researched Islam, are you able to share some names or references that helped your understanding of Islam, if that's ok. I absolutely respect your perspective, and agree with a lot of what you have said.

hi, thank you for the great questions and glad you are enjoying the thread :-) I did want to focus on the internal aspects as only certain (misunderstood/inaccurate) external rituals of Islam are ever discussed in mass media.

in terms of deceased Muslims. not only is cremation not permitted, but any kind of mutilation of the body. we are also told to handle body with extreme gentleness and respect. this is because the body is sanctified and needs to laid to rest as it has its own journey. the spiritual process of death lasts beyond the immediate moment of the souls departure.

the handling of deceased humans applies to non Muslims as well. we are also to handle them with great respect. for example mutilation of dead bodies was common historically but Muslims were forbidden to do this by the Prophet SAWS. this happened after a battle where a lot of deceased Muslims were mutilated (including the uncle of the Prophet SAWS whose heart was eaten by one of the opposing leaders who later became Muslim and was forgiven). the Muslim soldiers wanted to avenge the mutilation but were forbidden by the Prophet SAWS.

the physical process of burial is undertaken by men... just for practical purposes I guess? and I guess these days it's mostly automated. women can be present at the burial... they just stand back i think more of a matter of allowing the space for what needs to be done. i have attended burials without any issues. women attend funeral prayer and all the other funeral rites. bathing of the deceased is done by members of the same sex.

so one thing to be made clear is that a woman on her period is NOT considered dirty. in fact while she is on her period, all her namaz are counted as if she has read them and she gets reward for this. she can only not pray the namaz or fast (it is stated in the Qur'an and also applies for 40 days after birth). she can pray otherwise without any issues with slight adjustments and she can still go to the mosque. I personally do meditation (on the word God), read prayers and listen to Qur'an recitation to bring me that peace during those times. I think definitely culture affects how these rules are interpreted and communicated. and often its not pleasant. but the point of these rules is not to exclude women but grant them relief from obligation.

the concept of 'ritual purity' in Islam is quite complex. men are subject to similar rules but these work differently because of differences of physiology. if you want more details, I can provide this. :-)

yes, it's quite an interesting thing to do as there are a lot of similarities in the message. and also the Qur'an describes the history of the Abrahamic religions including Christianity in a lot of detail.

In terms of researching Islam, for me there were two parts, theoretical and practical. A biography of the Prophet SAWS is a good start. Muhammad by Martin Lings is good, although it has a few(quite significant) inaccuracies. it provides a broad overview. Translations of the Qur'an are best read while in discussion with a Muslim scholar or someone who has reasonable knowledge of the Qur'an as it is incredibly complex. Books by Imam al Ghazali RA helped me a lot. Ihya Ulum al Din is a huge text, but helpfully broken into subsections so one can select according to areas of interest. Imam Al Ghazali RA's Alchemy of happiness and The Book of Assistance by Imam Ibn Alawi al Haddad RA are a great start to examining the 'inner aspects' if Islam. The Cambridge Muslim College has some great free resources and Shaykh Abdul Hakim Murad has a great deal of content on YouTube which I have found helpful and enjoyable. I really wish there was a good book about the scientific miracles of the Qur'an, but unfortunately none that I would recommend.

in terms of the practical part, I felt experiencing the lived aspects of the religion definitely helped me understand it better. I started with praying once a day and some other very basic things... and it helped make sense of what I was reading.

sorry for the extremely long ranty reply!

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