To the lady who mentioned mens attitudes being reinforced by the willingness of women to lap dance.
I simply feel that we essentially sell a product, and men (and women) use that product.
I feel that for the most part, men learn how to be a man from their parents, predominantly their Father. As with racism, sexism, homophobia, I absolutely believe these are learned at home, and I feel attitudes to women are no different. So in terms of whether or not we reinforce these attitudes, no I do not believe so.
I think men by and large like to see naked women therefore use stripclubs as a form of light entertainment, it really is that simple.
A few ladies on here suggest we sell sex, no, we sell a fantasy. The fantasy of the hot, semi naked, lingeried upped, stockinged, high healed lady who pays him some attention. Us women are often bogged under with kids, housework, jobs etc, and they often fall to bottom of the pecking order in the household, they lack the attention. They go to a strip club to get that attention. Many have said they'd rather have it from their wives or girlfriends but after having kids, she put on weight, stopped shagging him, blah blah fucking blah. Men are only human and feel rejected when they feel insignificant at home. If stripclubs did not exist, men would find their sexual entertainment somewhere else.
This is exactly where my resentment comes from, and feel free to judge, but I cannot help the way I feel. Women for the most part a burdened with the majotity of the heavy lifting in relationships. They are often the only source of emotional support in the household (as men have GENERALLY been brought up to be useless at expressing and understanding them). We do the childcare, we work, we cook, we clean, we pln, we remind of birthdays and other occassions, the list is endless. Often at the end of the day we are fucking exhausted. To then be expected to don a babydoll and fucking suspenders to fulfill our partner is a pisstake. They are just another person that wants a bloody piece of us, pulls us in another direction. And when they don't get it, they sulk, they stomp, they cheat, they go to a strip club.
I mentioned earlier about my inner conflict concerning men. And this is it. Not only am I a stripper, I am a Mother. I am a friend, I was a student, a partner. Us women have so many people that rely on us, everybody wants a piece. It is exhausting. Yet the vast majority of men work during the week and assume the weekend is their free time, assume they do not need to help out with chores or the children, often prioritise themselves financially over the entire household. Women get no such luck. Most women I know find parenting an ongoing guilt trip- did I do this right, did I pack them enough lunch, have I danaged them in any way etc etc. Yet it seems men disappear off to work and likley don't give their children a second thought. I feel we carry such burdens in comparison.
And what do men do, when we are too tired to perform for them? They bugger off out and pay someone to do it for them. And I resent them for it, because in my experience, it is a fundamental need, not a want, not an entitlement, a need.