I’ve had labiaplasty.

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Anyone curious?

No problem QuestionableMouse and thanks for coming back. Was it my username that made you think I was a troll??

In my teens I was convinced there was something wrong with me until I stumbled across my older brother’s porn stash. One of mine is longer than the other but I came to terms with it when I saw the variety on offer.

managedmis I have PM’ed you.

As for sex - I was so worried about loss of sensation. I actually had a very gentle session about 10 days post-surgery to make sure everything was still functioning (and it was!)

You must wait at least 6 weeks before you have have PIV sex. I waited 8. The first time was scary and I felt very tight at the entrance. Unfortunately that went away 😂 and it feels back to how it was before. Only without any flaps getting in the way and making everything dry.

gnushoes can you tell me more about this? It is a concern.

HandsomeMaid glad it went well for you.

About the labia at menopause. I have to say that I really can’t imagine that my labia would have disappeared, hormones or no hormones. They were simply too long. Having said that, I do wish I had a bit more left than I do.

DoTheNextRightThing happy to answer any questions you may have! It is a scary prospect. I have no regrets but equally, people have made some valid points on here about reasons not to, so it’s good to think carefully.

@gnushoes

Glad it went well for you but to those considering it - lots of women's labia disappear almost entirely at menopause which is a hell of a shock and something HRT doesn't really address. Many also have Genito urinary syndrome of menopause which is as nasty as it sounds, and women with scar tissue from episiotomies and tears often find that a problem. I cannot imagine that an earlier labiaplasty would improve any of this.

I really didn't know this. I thought I must be becoming more at ease with my labia but in fact they have probably shrunk I was teased a lot about mine as a child (v visible in those school knicker gym things we used to have to wear at primary) and it made me self conscious for years They used to rub and be uncomfortable but are ok now

Thanks for the thread, op, it's interesting

I have to say I was really relieved when my dd was born and hers looked 'normal'

“I have to say I was really relieved when my dd was born and hers looked 'normal'“

I’m surprised that you say this Zelda, because most women only experience enlargement down there from puberty onwards. Are you saying you had problems from a younger age?

Think OP is getting a hard time here.

One of mine was massive and overhanging to the point where when I walked it would get caught in my knickers and jeans and would pull - very painful! The other side is ‘normal’.
I had it operated on when I was 15 as it was very troublesome, was in and out in a day.

Didn’t know about about the menopausal thing

I must have done yes, I've always had perhaps more swollen outer labia abnd longer inner labia I think, so they kind of peeped out and were more visible in tight underwear as an example, rather than looking smooth (hence the teasing)
Oh god am I more freakish that I thought

I'm new to this site and have been trying to figure out how to PM/ DM you... I can't!

Please msg me, I NEED the details of your surgeon x

In all honesty, thinking about it, I really can't say what age exactly I noticed so perhaps it did develop rather than I was born that way. I remember it being a deal at primary school, and I guess I was 8 or so. Maybe I wasn't always like that. I kind of assumed I was. Interesting ....

Oh no Zelda, I’m sorry! You’re not freakish it would be interesting to learn more about the menopausal effect on labia size.

That said - I don’t recall suffering when I was pre-pubescent and had very small labia minora, so what exactly is the concern? Is it that where the labia minora “were” feels tight?

Sorry I'm confused, is labiaplasty for the inner or outer labia?

I think I noticed because I was teased. I was groped actually, by other children, because it looked different - more bulge like I suppose. Oh god this is like therapy I never told anyone that before. It made me very aware I was 'different' down below. And also very opposed to those school knicker pe kit thing! I'm really interested to hear I probably wasn't always like that and it is a puberty thing. Now I am worried about my daughter
Oh.god this thread!
Let me just say to other people reading this who don't get it - it can be massively psychologically difficult to deal with, as well as physically painful.

Zelda I hope you are getting something out of this thread (and not just uncertainty!). If it shows something, it’s that we have so little idea what is between our legs. It’s a mystery to so many of us. And often it’s a boyfriend who is the first to see it, and their comments may be insensitive...
I’m so sorry you were groped! How awful! And the outfit sounds totally inappropriate. That must have been very distressing.
As this thread shows, we really aren’t “allowed”‘to have opinions on our own vulvas, apart from “it’s fine” or “I’ve never had any complaints” or “why would you care what your vagina looks like”. But the reality is, people do care. Your story is living proof!

I totally agree about the 'dismissing of our opinions' thing. I was lucky probably to have nice boyfriends for my first few experiences and that gave me a lot of confidence. I am bi, so by now I've seen a lot of vulvas and that has been very psychologically healing as well. I totally understand the physical dimension you describe as well though - it was just annoyingly uncomfy. Still is sometimes. I'm fascinated to learn that's probably the effects of menopause!!

Really interesting thread, thanks OP.

I had major damage from DC1 including a lot of stitch work and prolapses. No tearing at all with DC2 (less painful than a leg wax).

That’s reassuring Wallywobbles

You’re very welcome LittleCabbage

I've had this surgery too. I had the trim method. Life changing for me. Recovery time was a bit harder than I thought but I am so thrilled with the results. I went with a well known London female surgeon who specialises in this. She was lovely and worked with my body to create a shape that looks natural and wasnt tooooo much cutting. It cost about 4k. I feel so much more confident in bed / at the gym/ in a bikini etc.
Glad yours went well too OP. Great thread

I had it done under local anaesthetic too.. surprisingly fine. Covid has been a much harder experience!

Would love to have this done! Just haven’t really got the courage tbh. Also DH says he loves it. That’s probably the only reason I don’t find the courage 😏

“ Also DH says he loves it.“. He’s a keeper! To be honest I’m sure most guys like it, but I just love the freedom of being able to go naked in chargerooms, not feel weird during Pap smears, go knickerless etc.

@FlagFlaps he really is, I wouldn’t even look at my self naked until I met him and he semi convinced me I’m ok. Haha. Agree with smears though, I always make a joke of it, apologize for the train wreck but really I want to cry. Glad you don’t have that any more