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@Helmetbymidnight
what is it that makes you a man op? you must be able to put it in words after all this time.
In terms of the deciding factor for my GP, the sex indicated on all of my official records.
@KTJean
As someone who is onto the second round of treatment for early stage cervical cancer and put off screening because of previous sexual violence, these are things which did not happen because I have a cervix but because I am a woman with a female body, and I find the notion of being reduced to a cervix haver dehumanising. The nurse who eventually did my test talked to me about my concerns and talked me through it - me, the whole person, not just scraping my cervix; the gynaecologist and nurses who treated me thereafter talked to me about and during the process as a person with previous female-specific experiences and children not a cervix.
The treatment shouldn't change for women. What should change is that people without a cervix are invited while people with one aren't, based on a single letter in their digital record, and that most trans men avoid any and all cervical screening due to either the associated misgendering or because they're denied access (both aren't wholly rectified by a tick box, I'm aware and working on). Which is something I'm working on bettering.
Please can you explain to me what ‘living as a woman’ meant to you and how you ‘broke out’? I really do not see how this means anything unless you have preconceptions about how a woman should live and how a man is able to live? (Although I do understand that society has these preconceptions)
It means I'm now seen as either a man or a trans man in daily life, helping me function as a person and live a life.
@QueenOfTheFae
I agree with previous posters, this should not be available. What should (in my view) be available, is a form you can fill out with clear and concise instructions stating that you understand the risk of not having "biological sex based" checks, and wish to no longer have them
This is a system that has killed trans men in the past. This is not a system that I support. It's your choice if you do, but I will not stand by medical negligence resulting in death.
@Mummyoflittledragon
I don’t have a cervix. It’s standard practice for post hysterectomy females, who have had their cervix removed to be taken off the list on request. I don’t see why you think you helped on this matter.
It was exceedingly difficult here in the past. But essentially it's the same system as you have, then, with the exception that there's also an allowed on list for men.
But it isn’t a rare trans woman. Men dressed as male with no grc or indication they are trans can and do enter female only spaces and can no longer be challenged as this is allowed by the businesses or service providers. Some enjoy seeing women frightened.
And they will continue to do so regardless of GRCs, regardless of trans women being granted or denied access. This means that this behaviour isn't effected by trans women being allowed access or not.
@HermioneWeasley
Do you see any risks to women’s rights in saying that men have periods and can get pregnant too?
Not at all. As long as it's understood that people shouldn't be discriminated against due to periods or pregnancy.
Do you see any risks to women’s health by referring to “people with a cervix” instead of “women and girls”
No. Can you tell me what the risks are?
Do you believe you have changed sex and are now male?
I reject the construct of sex, personally.
@MoltoAgitato
Citation needed for transwomen historically entering women’s spaces for years, please.
... do you need me to direct you to the trans women that have been using women's restrooms and changing rooms for years?
And why don’t you care about any man entering women’s spaces, as that’s what self id allows?
Because they already can. People who look like men will get booted, though (but doesn't discriminate - those booted include natal men, trans women, butch natal women, trans men, nonbinary people of any listed sex). I don't see that changing in the near future. Vile behaviour should still be judged accordingly.
@PityParty4one
The problem with check boxes is it requires the person to read and understand what they are "checking" and why the are checking it/what the consequences could be.
The person doesn't fill in the boxes themselves, it's the GP who does so in their personal record.
@shortytrekker
I distinctly remember saying to my parents "I want to be a boy". I was a child and just thought boys had more fun and more adventures, I wasn't into girlie things. I worry that these days for children saying similar things.
I was into girly things. I also wanted to grow up into a man for my entire life. The latter is the distinction for trans men. It's not a flight of fancy because boys get Spiderman in their Happy Meals.
@DeeZastris
Do your parents find you exhausting?
Probably, considering they also deal with me opposite of them in their homophobic, racist and islamophobic protest rallies whenever I have a day off from work.
@catwithnohat
*Apologies if you're already answered this but have you transitioned, in that you've had surgery?
Are you happier in your life now than you were (is life generally easier)?*
I've had double mastectomy and a hysterectomy. I've no intentions of any other surgery.
I'm significantly happier! I mean, the bar was low, but still, it's a drastic increase in life quality. It's not at all easier socially (when perceived as a woman I could breeze by, now my behaviour suddenly represents A Group), but no longer needing therapy three times a week makes things easy.
@TheChampagneGalop
What exactly is it do you think, that makes you identify as a trans man?
Playing male roles as a kid, wearing masculine clothes, wanting to protect girls - those are things many girls and women do.
Absolutely. My sister was one of them. As was my mother to some extent (more so than me). Neither of them see themselves and want to be seen as men, however.
@Pinkyyy
What do you mean by this? You didn't want to be a female, but you want to be able to dress up like one as a pisstake?
How does one 'dress up' as a woman? Clothes aren't gendered. I wear a dress and play a role that mostly involved the fake persona I cracked out of, that doesn't mean I'm dressing up as a woman as a pisstake.
@daisychain01
What process did you go through to get those "GPs in my immediate area" to enact such a major alteration to their standard procedure? Was it as a consequence ofyourpersonal transition that they decided to change the process for everyone in that immediate area? How long did it take for them to change it - Months? Years?
It's not a huge alteration. It's a minor administrative alteration to allow someone to opt out of an automatic mailing list and ensure safe treatment for men with a uterus.
@WellErrr
But that’s not what I asked, is it?
Trying not to get frustrated, but it’s really hard when people are obtusely insisting that the feelings of a few trump the safety of many.
Are your feelings of fear not contradicting the fact that over the past decades, very little incidents occurred involving trans women in women's changing rooms and bathrooms?
What do you say to the hundreds of accounts of women being assaulted, raped, or simply quietly excluded from public life due to having no sex segregated spaces?
You currently haven't had real sex segregated spaces as trans people are using them and have used them for ages. Have you been under significant threat in these spaces for the past 30+ years?
@Coughy4u
*I don't understand why you can't protect women, dress in unisex or traditionally stereotypically masculin clothings and like men and still be a woman?
Why did it need you to change to this extent for things that are not actually inherently male anyway? You could have been and done all this as a woman?*
I've tried this, I've tried to be a more masculine woman than I'm now as a (feminine) man, I've tried to be more feminine, I've tried neutral as a woman and it was all mentally, emotionally and physically destroying me. As I'm now seen as male, using testosterone and mentally, emotionally and physically better than ever before, wouldn't you say that's the better option?
How do you get treated by bio (cis?) men, when you go into men only changing rooms or toilets?
Identically to any other men who enter.
Do straight, bi or gay men date you?
I've dated one straight man before coming out, my other partners have been bi or gay.
@SophoclesTheFox
Even when those rules around eligibility based on lowered testosterone have been found to be inaccurate, based on highly flawed data, and result in substantial unfairness to women?
Can you give me the links to this?
If they were made more restrictive, based on better data around the negligble impact of transitioning on a post puberty male physique, would you still support them?
They're already incredibly restrictive. And I likely wouldn't, in all honestly, as I believe all women have a right to sport and many people are trying to ensure trans women have to endure male puberty, meaning that no trans woman would ever be allowed to participate in (elite) sports.
@CaptainMarvelDanvers
Do you not feel that is a bit like religion, where you believe something so strongly even though factually there is no evidence other than belief?
Do you believe that personality or enjoying the taste of mushrooms is based on religion? They're equally based on self reporting and equally measurable.
In short, no.
@PermanentTemporary
How do you manage the side effects of testosterone? Do they scare you?
I've experienced no negative side effects of testosterone. The increased smell, hair loss, facial hair, body hair, dropped voice et al were all things I was looking forwards to and continue to embrace.
Your vocabulary is very American. If you've lived in America, do you see trans issues as being different between the two countries? Is there a 'trans culture' which transcends nationality?
I've never been in America. I'm not natively English, however, I'll give you. The UK is significantly more against trans people then where I originate from. There's no 'trans culture' there, trans people are mostly a neglected but somewhat accepted group (though occasionally I do hear of anti-trans murder and violence).
@puds11
As a trans man entering male spaces do you always feel safe?
Definitely. I feel safer in male spaces than i would if I were forced into female ones. If I had to go to female ones, I'd not go or use my former tactic of changing in any empty toilet.