Husbands inappropriate working situation .
Patchless37 · 01/11/2018 07:15
Would you be happy if you husband for the last few months has had to attend a number of work meetings that require him to travel and stay overnight in a hotel. Following the meeting in the day, a few of the team meet up for dinner and drinks. There are probably about 6 women and 2/3 men including my husband. The first meeting ended up with an after party that went until 4am - a game of truth and dare and my husband dared to run around the bar area wearing his bosses bra that she had taken off earlier in the night as it was bothering her. The second meeting ended with dinner and clubbing, but did end a little earlier than the last at around 1:30/2:00. We had some words following this as he didn't bother to send a message or call to say goodnight or anything. Now he has gone away for another work thing that requires a 2 night stay. When he left yesterday I asked him what the plans were, and he said nothing had been arranged yet. At about 9pm he calls, but upset by this time I don't answer and he messages on Wattsap. Tells me that he is having dinner and a meeting. I asked meeting? To which he replied 'informal' - so I commented 'oh a drinking session'. His reply was Nah not really. He told me that another one of the male bosses was there with a colleague that he is having an affair with and there is a lot of monkey business going on that he wants to tell me about. I tell him we can talk later. He tells me to call before I go to bed. I don't bother calling - just went to bed crying, and got a message from him at 00:40 saying 'Not calling then? And goodnight'. Now AIBU by thinking that these outings are a bit inappropriate, and are just looking for trouble... We have been married for 15 years btw and have never had trust issues. My concern is a lot of good intentions often end in trouble. I am quite emotional about the whole situation so need some rational external input please
giantbanger · 01/11/2018 07:19
I think you should get this moved to relationships. You’ll get good advice there. 💐
Stoppedat1 · 01/11/2018 07:26
My OH works away a lot. The drunken shenanigans wouldn't bother me because I trust him and have worked for companies with similar drinking culture.
Saying that if you've never been worried before is there something in his actions beforehand that have made you suspicious? Or is the late night drinking a new thing?
flumpybear · 01/11/2018 07:27
Wow I couldn't even imagine having such business meetings - who does he work for lol - Ann summers? Spearmint rhino 🦏 🤨🤩
I'd probably be really laughing it up and discussing with my husband if it was my job (albeit I'm a lightweight and asleep on the sofa by 9pm lol) - think I'd be a bit 🤨 if it was my DH job though
costacoffeecup · 01/11/2018 07:29
Who does he work for exactly! If it's a big company I think they'd be very surprised about the behaviour of their employees, they need to be careful as it's a reputational risk to the business for them to be running round in bras at 4 am. Sounds a bit juvenile to be honest.
LifeBeginsNow · 01/11/2018 07:32
Is he in sales? Seems to be pretty standard. I think with all the travelling and not really seeing people (apart from your customer for an hour or so), it seems important to unwind with people you know.
I've learnt the hard way though that I can't be up until 4am and then attend a sales meeting the next day!
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