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AMA

I was a pro Dominatrix for 4 years... AMA

17 replies

Gingersdohavesouls · 19/09/2018 11:45

And to add to that... I am 100% lesbian and only took on male clients.
I did this with my female partner.

Happy to answer ANYTHING you want to know. I don’t get shocked or easily upset so anything that’s ever niggled in the back of your mind, ask away 🙂

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slippyshoesshuffle · 19/09/2018 11:53

Did your clients come to you for domination they could not get elsewhere or because they needed more?

Did it pay enough to do full time? (Asking for a friend....)

FleeceDetective · 19/09/2018 11:56

Was it a sexual service?

Gribbie · 19/09/2018 12:02

Can I get paid AND get them to clean my house at the same time? 😂

RatRolyPoly · 19/09/2018 12:11

Assuming you enjoyed your job, what was it that you enjoyed about it? I know a Dom (male) and have asked him if the act of domination had an appeal for him aside from the sexual arousal, but for him it's mostly linked with sex acts. As you're a lesbian I assume for you any enjoyment you got from it was something else - can you articulate that at all? I find this sort of thing so interesting!

cheezy · 19/09/2018 12:15

Can you describe a typical day/ night?

Gingersdohavesouls · 22/09/2018 08:51

Hey sorry for the late replies, been a busy few days.

No, it was NEVER a sexual service. All of our submissives were screened for weeks/months before being taken on, and 9/10 time it’s a male looking for a sexual element to their session.

I did this from ages 23-28, and on average we’d charge £100-250 a session depending on their kink.
My favourite regular would always come in with flowers and chocolates, very VERY appreciative of having 2 women who didn’t degrade him for his proclivities. He would spend 1.5 hours cleaning our home, dressed in a traditional maids outfit, waiting on us hand and foot. Then would finish with 30 mins being a foot stool, with us verbally abusing him.
All of our subs were professional men and worked in high power jobs, usually in stressful situations - a lot of them just wanted to be dominated by a strong female, being told what to do instead of doing the telling.

Being a non-sexual, lesbian service, we also had a clause in their contract - if they ejaculated then the session was over and that was it. That only happened once and my GF at the time made him clean himself up and leave Grin

I’m incredibly glad this was something I did when I was younger bcoz I have some great stories now, and it made me SO much more confident! I was bullied on the daily when I was younger, and being paid to control someone’s every movement is a very powerful feeling.

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chipshape · 22/09/2018 20:00

If it's not sexual, what's the point? Why would someone pay you so they're allowed clean your house? Bizarre. Couldn't he just clean his own house?

lynmilne65 · 22/09/2018 20:13

Does anyone care ?

chipshape · 22/09/2018 20:20

Lynmilne you obviously cared enough to open the thread, read it and comment on it.

Littletabbyocelot · 26/09/2018 14:03

What made you stop?

PlinkPlink · 26/09/2018 14:40

Do you still keep in contact with people in the scene? Through FL or whatever?

My friend who introduced me to the scene is still my friend now and I consider her to be one of my best friends, despite now living 100s of miles away from each other.

Do you miss it at all?

Gingersdohavesouls · 27/09/2018 10:23

My health deteriorated to the point I couldn’t safely work anymore.
I was on FetLife for a long time and a couple of others and yes, still have friends I met online and at BBB. Mostly used IC (Informed Consent) but my GF Harley was well known on FL.

Most of the clients we saw needed a release in some way, a release controlled by someone else. As I said earlier, most of the men we saw were in high powered jobs who couldn’t get this release in another way.
One of the reasons I enjoyed my time in the scene was understanding the psychology behind someone’s kink, why it is such a strong thing for them to control and understand.

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Justabouthadituptohere · 27/09/2018 10:28

My husband and I have been together for 15 years and I’ve ended up being the Dom sexually. We’ve just fallen into and I now I crave someone taking control of me.

To the extent I know I can easily initiate sex by pretending to control him or ‘make’ him do it - or I can talk to him in a dirty way about being controlled and it’ll arouse him so we do end up having sex. But if I left him to it to initiate he just wouldn’t - he’s always waiting for me to take control.

Is there anyway in your eyes of trying to get him to take control? To change the dynamic. Does it mean anything that his mother has a controlling personality?

PlinkPlink · 27/09/2018 10:35

What do you mean about the psychology?

Do you find people are scared of delving into that side of it?

I know I am. I enjoy enjoying What I enjoy 😂 I don't want to think too much about the reasons why I like what I like and then suddenly find it doesn't turn me on. I guess that really puts me in the sub category as I'm okay with someone else doing the thinking for me 😂

LittleMissedTheSunshine · 27/09/2018 12:59

Hey so you got someone to clean your house but THEY paid YOU! Cool!

LittleMissedTheSunshine · 27/09/2018 13:01

So my question is: If say someone wanted to be kicked in the bollocks, and you did this.. where would you stand if they later tried to report you for assault (say for example if they later regretted things) And did the legal side of this ever worry you?

PrincessXtina · 29/01/2019 02:58

How did you choose your Dominatrix nickname? I've been doing foot Domination for a few years now and my biggest client wants to become my full time slave, and is going to get me online selling footpix and getting online foot worship.. But I can't come up with a great attention grabbing name.. I used to just my entertainer name, but I want my name to reflect what type of Dominatrix I am. I see too many girls calling themselves Goddess, Mistress.. What do you thin is better to use, a surname and real name title (for example Goddess/Mistress [insert first name] or just one name? I am a very controlling and bossy Domme, I will humiliate my slave, when I own a slave I own them and he knows it! But at the same time I have a very nice sweet side, I care about what he wants and how he feels and will make sure we are both happy. Any advice is greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance! Smile

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