I breastfed my child til she was 6yr old AMA

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DD was breastfed til she was 6. Ask me anything

@Sleeplikeasloth

1. No. I think it 'taught' DD2 that when you are upset, a person you love is the answer the feeling better. Children under 7 do not have fully functioning self regulation. There are so many developmental changes at 7. I can clearly see it as the end point of bf. I'm glad she doesn't reach for a 'thing' to feel better.

Many adults reach for food, alcohol, drugs, technology etc. to self sooth. I hope DD2 does not. I can't see the future though. All I can say is her observable attachment is far more secure than DD1's.

2. I'm still married to DH. I only felt 'touched out' in the first 2 years when bf was on demand. Both DH and I could put our own 'wants' behind DD2's need to breasfeed for a short period like 2 years.

Booboostwo, strangely I thought this was 'ask me anything' not just 'ask me comfortable questions'.

I see 'have boobie' to stop a tantrum as an easy solution, but not necessarily an appropriate parenting technique personally, not all the time anyway, any more than offering to buy a toy, or a chocolate bar.

And the second question is a perfectly valid question. I know it would put a huge strain on my relationship personally, if either of us were kicked out of the marital end for a prolonged time, or if prolonged night feeding had an effect on sex etc. Some couples seem to be OK withy hat, others not. It's naive to expect that it won't necessarily have an effect.

stargirl1701, love can easily come in the form of a hug. Using food (whether that being milk or anything else), to provide confort is comfort eating in its most basic and literal sense.

'Why would it be lazy to stop tantrums by bf? Why isn’t bf to stop tantrums part of best parenting strategies?'

Sounds extremely lazy to me

Replace bf with cuddle for what you might do with an overloaded toddler/small child. Bf is a comfort for a bf child in the same way a cuddle is for a non bf child.

Anyone who has a problem with the idea of using bf as a calming technique where they themselves might use a cuddle for example just has a problem with bf a toddler and are looking for other ways to frame it.

Lots of people have problems with toddlers being bf because it is not a cultural norm.

Sleepslikeasloth indeed it’s AMA and not Ask Me A Passive Aggresive Question You Have Already Answered Yourself. Your question should make all sorts of unpleasant unsumptions and reveal your hang ups, as I am sure you know.

Your questions make... sorry typo.

Not that it comes up often in real life but when talking about feeding did you find yourself saying "still breast feeding"?

I'm "still" feeding a 13 month old. To many that's already well beyond the norm so when it comes up now and again (no I can't take sudafed/night time covonia/get my leg hair laser treated) I say "because I'm still breast feeding". And it kind of irks me that I'm almost apologising. I don't know when I started saying still. Probably after we got to six months?