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I was an escort for 12 years. AMA

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 20:56

I was an escort from the age of 18-30. There were one or two things I enjoyed about it, but on the whole it was awful and I’m glad to be out of it now. AMA

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Summersup · 25/07/2018 21:10

How did you get into it?

Why couldn't you get out again fairly quickly?

Do other people in your current life know about your past?

Belindabauer · 25/07/2018 21:12

Did you always have sex with the customers, or did they sometimes want you to act as a partner to events?

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 21:15

I was a student and incredibly skint. I watched a documentary on TV about it and thought i’d give webcamming a try to earn some more money. That eventually turned into escorting.

No one knew what I was up to so it became very isolating. I became very depressed, paranoid and anxious which meant I struggled to hold down a normal career (I tried a couple of times). I kept resorting back to escorting to pay the bills and I just felt more and more trapped in that life as the years went by.

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 21:17

@Belinda I always had sex with them (not always penetrative but always some level of foreplay). I would occasionally be asked out to dinner by some of them by I never wanted to be seen with them in public incase I bumped into someone I knew

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CookPassBabtridge · 25/07/2018 21:24

How did you get out of it?

Would you go back?

How do you feel about men as a result?

Sorry I'm bombarding you! Grin

Viago · 25/07/2018 21:29

How do you feel about there being a lot of pro-prostitution stuff around at the moment? Do you feel that reflects your experiences?

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 21:32

I met my DP and knew I had to stop right away as he would never have been ok with it. I had some savings so took a few months off to deal with my anxiety and I got myself a job (which paid peanuts in comparison but the weight that was lifted off my shoulders made it all worth it).

I don’t think I could ever go back. Earning a lot of money for only a few hours of work a week can be addictive. But it’s not worth the anxiety and deceit for me personally.

Most of my clients weren’t single so I definitely struggle with trust issues now as i know first hand how many men cheat

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 21:38

@viago The only pros I had for the job were how much money I could earn for doing so little work. I feel like I wasted my 20s doing something that made me feel so on edge all the time. I was terrified every day of my family finding out. Some of the clients were lovely, but I had my fair share of abusive assholes who were horrible to deal with. I became lazy as it was too easy to just do a booking and then spend the rest of the day in bed watching TV. I definitely wouldn’t recommend it to anyone, and I also wince at some of the dangerous situations I put myself in when I first started out at 18.

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userxx · 25/07/2018 21:50

How much money did you make with a client?

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 21:54

@userxx £50 for 15 mins, £70 for 30 mins, £120 for 1 hour, £240 for 2 hours. I didn’t like to do bookings for longer than 2 hours but I did a handful of overnights in the early days and would make £900 each time.

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Littlechocola · 25/07/2018 21:56

Does your partner know now?

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 21:59

@littlechocola yes he knows. I stopped for good 2 weeks after meeting him and I told him on our 5th date that i’d been an escort. Luckily he’s a very open minded person and he could see that I purely did it for the money. He wouldn’t have wanted to be with me if i’d continued doing it though

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userxx · 25/07/2018 22:07

Wow £900 for a night! I'm clearly doing something wrong 😏. It's easy how to see how you get trapped because of the money. Did you declare your income to hmrc ?

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 22:19

@userxx yes as I used some of the income to buy a house with so I needed to be all above board.

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Littlechocola · 25/07/2018 22:42

9911, I love your honesty

Littlechocola · 25/07/2018 22:43

What advice would you give to a young woman considering escorting?

Paradyning · 25/07/2018 22:45

What's the difference between an escort and a prostitute?
When you said you didn't go for dinner I was confused and the pricing structure you described left little time to do anything in it

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 22:53

@littlechocola i’d tell them to not be blinded by the potential earnings as the job comes with all sorts of problems further down the line. If they were insistent on doing it for a short while to clear debts or something then i’d advise them to do it independently (rather than going through an agency and having to give them half of their earnings) and to join the Saafe forum so they could buddy up with other escorts in their area so they can keep an eye on each other. Always have a plan to get out as it’s not the sort of thing you want to have to do long term.

@paradyning there isn’t a difference. An escort is just a different term for a prostitute. Escorts who only do “social meets” will make no money as there isn’t a market for it. Most of the websites online for social escorts are scams

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croprotationinthe13thcentury · 25/07/2018 22:53

What percentage of clients would you say were married or in a relationship?

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 22:57

@crop I would never ask them as I didn’t want to know. Some of them would slip into conversation that they were married with kids etc though.i’d always try and change the subject as I wanted to remain as detracted as possible to the situation

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Viago · 25/07/2018 22:59

Thanks for replying. I hope you're in a better place mentally now Flowers

Ibelieveinkarma · 25/07/2018 23:00

What did you tell your family/friends that you did for a living?

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 23:01

@viago thanks :-) I am now but it took a while to sort my head out

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Namechanged9911 · 25/07/2018 23:03

@ibelieveinkarma I completed my degree that I was doing when I first started escorting (the only sensible thing I did in my 20s). So I was able to say I had gone self employed in that field and set up my own business. The hardest thing I found about the whole thing was the lying to my parents. It really, really got me down having to live a lie

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croprotationinthe13thcentury · 25/07/2018 23:10

Did you ever fall for a client?