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My OH earns millions AMA

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scumbagmillionaire · 17/07/2018 08:48

Just that really. I'm a SAHM. He's earned over a million pounds for the last few years. 7 last year probs not as much this year. Presume I will get a lot of abuse but do think that there are a lot of misconceptions as to.how much money it really is after tax and what sort of person you are so....

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QuackPorridgeBacon · 19/07/2018 19:25

What did I miss?

beanaseireann · 19/07/2018 19:53

What happened ???

Countdownto40 · 19/07/2018 20:49

I was really looking forward to reading @RealMaryMagdalene's AMA. Gutted that it's been deleted Sad

lillylollylandy · 19/07/2018 22:02

@RealMaryMagdalene I'm really sorry you went through that. I started reading your thread at work earlier and was really enjoying it - logged on to carry on reading and v disappointed to see it's gone. Completely understand why you asked for it to be taken down though - some people are just so nasty and jealous it's unreal. Hope you are ok.

RealMaryMagdalene · 19/07/2018 22:30

Well, what happened what vitriol, attacks not on any matter to do with finances, but personal such as my children, my health, my family, my ability to read and various celebrations as posters enjoyed guessing the many hideous, bizarre and horrific things that they decided they wished to attribute to me.

In particular the loss of children and cancer related celebratory nature comments were a disgrace,

MN deleted the thread, but response otherwise has been disappointing to see the least.

So I am leaving, as this is a toxic place.

Take care all xxxxxx

QuackPorridgeBacon · 19/07/2018 22:33

But how did any of that happen? I’m shocked at the things you have mentioned.

LuMarie · 19/07/2018 22:33

Hi @lillylollylandy

I didn't ask for it to be taken down, I actually think it should have stayed in place, to show how posters behave and how they feel empowered to behave.

If you were enjoying it, I expect you missed, fortunately, the especially shocking parts.

No discussion of charity work either, that was of no interest, only vitriol and not even about money. Just a collection of how many vicious things on the topics of the things I mentioned previously could possible be said at once.

Anyway, thank you for the note, take care.

LuMarie · 19/07/2018 22:36

@QuackPorridgeBacon

Literally no idea. Abusive empowered posters with serious and dangerous problems.

The things I mentioned here were a gentle almost lighthearted list of "wow, this is a few of the things being thrown at me",

I have screenshots although don't need them to recall the words and tone. It was so disgusting and shocking that my little list of things thrown at me is really very gentle. The way they were thrown, well, I can't comprehend or repeat that.

LuMarie · 19/07/2018 22:51

Oh fuck, name change.

Well whatever, sorry MN id you want to get pissed about my overlooking my name changed, I am LuMarie if any of us have met before.

The posters attacking me did their research are were following me around other threads and quoting things, as well as making things up, so my privacy is well and truly violated already anyway.

MN will not tell me how they will respond to behaviour and things said other than saying they look at posts based on their guidelines, but of course my emotional state must be an issue in leading to all of this.

Tough as nails here ladies, emotions just fine. i didn't appreciate the redirection of the problem to me, or refusing to tell me any more about how action would be taking in real terms, for the sake of the privacy of individuals who were celebrating their guesses that I had gynae cancer, lost babies and all the various other things.

Their privacy trumps all it seems. Also simply allows this type of behaviour to continue, as there are no real consequences.

Here I am with my real name as a poster and if anyone would like to know my actual name and every detail of my story, send me a quick message. I've been writing journals about the orphanage and refugee work for years, from a very personal perspective of the impact these children have had on me in my life, nothing spared.

For those of you sponsoring children and for the OP here who is now interested in considering what she may want to do re humanitarian work, I really wanted to share these stories and photographs. I have the joy through to the tragedy and ten years of children, many of whom I found in cardboard boxes in a field outside and orphanage, one little on was found in North Africa in a bin.

They are all thriving, beautiful, inspiring souls, thanks to those of you who share your kindness and I wanted you to really know and see what you do, or can do. I've also had babies in these places die on me, for no reason other than neglect and poverty. Their stories matter too and I tell them. So it's all there, the difference you make the world you change and the little faces and words that respond to your love and care. I would have liked to have shared that because that is worth a conversation.

I asked to have this account closed because really, attacks like that and nothing other than closing it and then respecting attackers privacy when I, my children, those children, my health and my life were fair game to be investigated across threads and ripped apart was not a privacy issue, I just can't be ok with that.

If you'd like to read a bit more about what you are doing when you reach across the world with your generosity and if you'd like to see the names, faces, characters, thoughts, experiences and lives of those children, send me a quick message, but quick I think because I'm not sure how long it takes to close an account... I'm very happy to share all of it.

NeverTwerkNaked · 19/07/2018 22:59

op I have spent an awful lot of time in the company of Hedge Fund managers and am surprised

  • that you talk about remaining in the SE of England when most are realistic that they may have to move abroad if they haven’t already?
  • that he has managed to keep weekends as family time Hmm
  • that you don’t give to charity (most I know give enormous amounts)
  • that he only earns £1m/ year?
NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 19/07/2018 23:05

If the calculator is correct he takes 60% home.

£3.7m ish give or take a hundred thousand.

TightAsAGnatsChuff · 19/07/2018 23:05

I find people here quite judgemental when it comes to charitable giving. Surely it's people's own decisions as to whether they support charities. I don't give anything to charity depsite my OH and I earning into the £100ks because I feel the 45% in tax I pay is plenty. I occasionally sponsor friends running marathons etc but that's about it.

OP, I'm amused that people think on £7m you'd earn a yacht, private jet etc. If you had a place in Chelsea/NH with a place in Cornwall and/or South of France, coupled with nice holidays, private schools, good artwork, watches, and investments, I'd be surprised if there is a lot left for private jets? Maybe I'm wrong.

I was also amused by the person spouting about Carillion, rather than looking at the incompetent management team, people choose to blame the HFs.
If only people know how much money the financial services sector contributes to the exchequer.
That and the fact that anyone other than higher and top rate tax payers are net recipients to the economy.

TightAsAGnatsChuff · 19/07/2018 23:06

*own

HattieAndHerBoy · 20/07/2018 06:20

They are all thriving, beautiful, inspiring souls, thanks to those of you who share your kindness and I wanted you to really know and see what you do, or can do

Lu, this is where I think you get it wrong. People don't need your thanks or anyone else's come to that for whats achieved with their donations. They don't need you to show them what was achieved because they more than likely keep up with things themselves. But most of all they don't need you telling them how wonderful they are because it just doesn't matter to them. They do what they do and thats the end of it.

scumbagmillionaire · 20/07/2018 08:59

Nevertwerkednaked. I thought I said 7. He is a manager, he does not own the fund. The Times Rich list is obvs. full of hedge funders but think they all own the fund. Markets are closed at the weekend so don't see why that's surprising. He's only worked at 1 hedge fund and worked for banks previously if that makes a difference. I don't know how you know what people give to charity unless you are talking about hedge fund owners who do like to shout about what they've given to the arts.
TightasaGnatschuff. Yes exactly. You have summed it up nicely.
RMM I've no idea what has gone on but Flowers

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ScrumpyCrack · 20/07/2018 10:52

So RMM = LuMarie. I was wondering why posts from page 2 that were originally under the name of Lu now appear as RMM, I had no idea they could be changed retrospectively Confused

beanaseireann · 20/07/2018 12:58

Sometimes those who shout loudest re their charity giving don't actually come up with the money.
At charity auctions during the Celtic Tiger in Ireland there was a prime example of this. A friend working in the sector told me about it.

Mrscog · 20/07/2018 13:30

The charity thing - do you not even contribute to people's just giving pages etc? I don't 'give' to charity in terms of a set amount or choosing a charity to support, but that's becuase I feel as though I'm forever supporting various things that just pop up in life - work collections, school non uniform days (jeans4genes etc), donating old things to charity shops, sponsored walks/runs/reads etc.

ElizabethMainwaring · 20/07/2018 13:42

Hello there. LuMarie/RMM isn't exactly providing a full account of what happened on her AMA. Things didn't go as she expected and she made a bit of a chump of herself.

QuackPorridgeBacon · 20/07/2018 14:37

ElizabethMainwaring What happened? Because from what she has explained I still haven’t a clue. In fact I don’t think she fully explained but regardless some of the comments she mentioned are quite horrible. There is something odd though and maybe I’m wrong but her writing style seemed odd but then everyone types differently.

scumbagmillionaire · 20/07/2018 14:48

Mrscog. Yes we do give to charity but not anywhere near enough.

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YouKnowWhatIMean · 20/07/2018 14:49

Things didn't go as she expected and she made a bit of a chump of herself.

How so?

ElizabethMainwaring · 20/07/2018 15:24

Hello again. I'm glad to add a bit of balance to the RMM AMA debacle, I'm sorry, I don't have much time so I'll try to be succinct.
Very lengthy, rambling, incoherent posts.
Refusing to answer straight forward questions- eg 'why did you leave banking?' and 'what did you study at uni?'
No mention of humanitarian works. Said she didn't want to talk about that 'until we know each other better'.
Poster (who said that she herself was bi-polar) said that RRM sounded like she was in a manic episode. LMM was very abusive to her. Very abusive. I'm pretty certain that's why the thread was pulled.
No mention of 'dead babies'. No idea where that's from.
Very self-agrandising all round. 'I'm very intelligent, very kind, very beautiful'. On and on at great length. Even boasting about being thin, 'think Trader Barbie'.
All sounded very implausible. Couldn't / wouldn't answer anything much.
A lot of posters agreed. She didn't like it. Abuse came from her. She got really angry, for very little reason. It was very self perpetuating. She said that she would complain to poster's employers, said that she'd given MNHQ copies of her qualifications and mental health reports and so on and so on.
It really was that bizarre.
Hope that clears things up a bit. But I doubt it! All the best.

ElizabethMainwaring · 20/07/2018 15:48

I think the point is, is that RMM wanted to do a huge drip feed and write 'her' life story. It did not go as anticipated and she became angry, became abusive and blamed everyone else. This is very odd behaviour for a stunningly beautiful millionaire humanitarian with a PhD. I think that she is possibly too invested in MN. I hope that she feels better for getting off MN.

itwasallveryfuckedup · 20/07/2018 16:28

The family comments are the only ones annoying me. No one knows anything about my family, our relationship, their standard of living.

It's AMA. So people asked. You're not answering a hell of a lot. I don't know why people start these if they don't actually want to answer questions.

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