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[Babydontcry]

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Thank you for your honesty Babydontcry
I have a family member who is an alcoholic and unlikely to find sobriety. I am heartbroken. Do you ever think you will get to a point where you will fully overcome your addiction and be recovered? Why did you start drinking again? What causes you addiction?

Does it frighten you what it will do to your son? Dp lost his dm at 51 to this illness and his life is completely affected by her illness in every single way.

MrsMother, I’m sorry to hear you suffered at the hands of an alcoholic parent; it’s not surprising you feel strongly about this. But I don’t see any evidence that the OP feels proud of her alcoholism. Where did you get that impression?

I'm sorry for you loss @Nearlyherenotlong x

@AnotherCrazyDaisy thank u I really hope I do, I've stopped before so I know I can stop again

Thanks for the suggestion Daisy I am pretty sure he has been tested recently and doesn't have diabetes but will double check xx
It really is a weird smell! And he only has it after an especially heavy night. I'm sure it's related to the alcohol being processed somehow

I read once about the connection between sugar addiction and alcoholism. It made perfect sense to me.

Thank you @waterlego I'm not proud my partner is at work and my son is with my mum. I just wanted to do something constructive today. I was hoping my post might help at least one person

Keep going to AA you will get all the help you need
Alcohism is not an illness of choice no body in their right mind would choose it no more a choice than someone choosing to have depression or an eating disorder
Listen to other members no one can understand better what you are going through
You will get there just put your sobriety above everything Alcohol is no longer fun it's poison to you
I do understand 12 years sober next week it can be done

Op, I’m glad that your health is ok in general so far. I know that you know that it’s only a matter of time before the alcohol starts to cause some permanent damage. There is only so much a liver can take. It’s obviously impossible to tell how long you have before that damage starts occurring. But once it occurs, it may not be reversible.

I’m sure you know all this already. Deaths through smoking and alcohol can be prolonged and pretty grim. That’s one of the things that helps me stay off cigarettes. Not the thought that I might live longer (so many factors there, and longevity is not necessarily a good thing) but the thought of living out my last years attached to oxygen tanks/drips etc, and knowing that it could have been avoided is just too sad.

@PrimalLass your right I know when I don't drink I eat a lot more sugar

After periods of abstinence, what makes you start drinking again?

Thank you @rosie1959 , it really isn't a choice but I think it can be hard for someone without the disease to understand. Congratulations on your sobriety, can you tell me a bit more about how you've stayed stopped? I will keep going back to AA, there is no other way.

@Harrykanesrightsock day to day stress,it's no excuse other people don't deal with things in the same way

@waterlego your right, I'm playing with borrowed time

While drinking do you present as drunk or does it just allow you to function?

Up until the age of about 38 I had never even been drunk a couple of glasses on a night out was about it I started to socialise a bit more for various reasons and drank a bit more but what I didn't know at this time was I was what it would do to me The worse thing about alcoholism is its the illness that your mind tells you that you haven't got
It took me a while to accept that I could no longer drink I had to find acceptance and that took a bit of market research Once I had accepted that it was pretty easily Play the tape forward take one drink and accept you no longer have a choice what happens next
Suggest you get yourself a sponsor and hit as many meetings as you can talk to people ask questions seek advice from people who know
In the nicest possible way your sobriety is too new and fragile to be on a open forum like this Unless a person has been where you are they really can't understand You will quite honestly hear people's opinions who really haven't got a Scooby doo about the feeling you have or an understanding of alcoholism The traditions are there for your protection and although this board is anonymous something someone may say inadvertently could have a very bad effect on you
Keep going drop any guilt you know the range of people in AA from all walks of life
I wish you well and sobriety

Please don’t think that your son won’t understand because he’s only two. He will know more than you think.

What affect does this have on your partner? Does he ever get angry or upset about it? Does he drink too?

I know a woman who is an alcoholic. She has 5 children. Her oldest is an adult now but the four younger ones are 12,10,9 and 7. All of them are undisciplined and extremely badly behaved. She allows them to run the streets doing whatever they want. Numerous people have complained to their schools and her directly about her kids. I was driving down the road the other day and her 7 year old (he’s in my dds class at school) ran in the road right in front of my car and ran back again playing chicken. I sent her a message telling her but was met with abuse.

She’s always drunk and doesn’t seem to care an ounce of the repercussions.

I’m not saying you are like this woman but children do know and if you don’t work towards stopping this now then it will only get worse and worse.

No addiction is easy to overcome. Whether it’s alcohol drugs or smoking or even giving up coffee. It all comes with side effects physically and mentally BUT it’s not impossible. Prepare yourself for it mentally, gather whatever support you can and go for it! You’ve done it before you can do it again. Believe in your own strength as you are stronger than you think

Are social services involver with your son?

32 years sober

What do you think makes someone an alcoholic?

I mean, I have a family member who can drink and drink and they never seem to be affected like others. They can drink two bottles of wine over a short period of time and only appear slightly tipsy (and regulaly do)!

I also have a 'friend' who is a diagnosed alcoholic. When they have drank together, the former can out-drink the latter however I don't think the former is an alcoholic . Is the difference the psychological need? I suppose it is. My family member would never drink if they knew they needed to work/drive/go to meet someone important. The latter would get pissed when meeting a new partner's parents or before they went to work, as if they cant help it?

The former is also a fitness fanatic and sportsman and always presents well, the latter doesn't wash and regularly smells of urine so to me, It's when drink becomes your life rather than part of your life? Rather than the amount one drinks being the only or main factor? What do you think?

Is two bottles of wine an average? Do you ever drink more than that? Also have you ever done anything embarrassing/humiliating through alcohol?

By the way I think this is really worthwhile and brave of you. You wanted to do something constructive today and you have done it

@ChuffingNorah ., thank you your kindness , yes it is average

Z@ChuffingNorah losing my job and falling my stairs was very embarrassing

How are you today Babydontcry?

Have you been to AA this week ?