Yet when I look for answers there are none because it is meant to be so easy.
It’s not easy though, that’s the point, it’s constant, boring, hard work for everyone. I think most ‘tidy people’ are tempted to sit and have a cup of tea/go on mumsnet or whatever rather than do the dishwasher. It really is hard work to make yourself do it a lot of the time.
Dishwasher taking 10 mins:-
Need to unload draining board with the stuff already drying on it, some may not be dry so needs drying - 1 or 2 minutes
Start unloading, plastic and Tupperware stuff and bottles are never dry so they need stacking on draining board or drying, 2 minutes
Actual unloading of other stuff and putting it away - 2 minutes
Ok then, 5 mins but seems to take me 10.
You don’t need to sort the draining board-get a tea towel and dry the things that need drying as you go-so remove from dishwasher, dry what’s in your hand, put it in cupboard, dry next thing, etc.
Also, you’ve already doubled the job in your head to 10 minutes and you’re way of thinking is ‘it seems to take me 10’ which is another way of removing responsibility from yourself ‘oh everyone else seems to do this quickly and easily, but for me it’s so hard and takes so long’! Disabilities, etc aside, it really honestly takes everyone the same length of time to unload a dishwasher