I never said my fantasies were exciting to anyone else, they were my fantasies, and they certainly don't make me a perv, just someone who had the urge to try something new after a boring marriage, and not be uptight and judgemental about everyone else.
Swingers club are relaxed and friendly, you don't need to go with anyone else, you can stay in your own couple if you want, either in public, private, or somewhere in between. Or meet new people, swap partners, group sex etc. No one judges anyone else.
My bf and I were very open with each other and just experimented with things past partners weren't open to trying - anal, pegging, bondage, outdoors etc. I'm not saying I'd do any of it again, but I tried what I was curious about and enjoyed it.