The desire to control the actions of others is not to be underestimated. It’s largely a male compulsion IME but some women as well (thinking here of Dolores Umbridge’s perfectly drawn character). It’s no coincidence that men with that desire are drawn to technology and we see this techbro misogynistic male ever present in Silicon Valley and represented in the tech billionaire class.
Years ago, I read a paper that explained that men speak rules and women enforce them, decades beyond when the men who made the utterances could have been bothered to do it.
An obvious example in the domestic setting is when a man declares, "And never darken my door again." It's the women who enforce it, who offer excuses as to why the excluded person can't attend a family event, who create the circles and deceptions that enforce the man's word. Even when the women don't agree and are the ones who suffer by the estrangement. Sometimes only seeing the estranged family member after the death of the man or sometimes continuing to refuse because it would be disloyal to the man, not to continue his word after his death.
Beyond that, it's women who want to demonstrate that they're purer and more compliant to the highest virtues of womanhood than other women and will do whatever it takes to avoid the threat that 'disrespectful, unkind, rebellious, defiant women" post to the hierarchical orders that keep them safe.
Suzanne Moore made a recent astute observation that the tribunals we've seen have showcased women going after other professional women in "banal McCarthyism".
I've paraphrased the above but it's the gist.