Just a thought on the anti-westerner feeling.
How much would a SAHM actually be directly exposed to this a great deal?
Would you just be in a false bubble that's not really representative of a place as a whole.
Ive travelled to places which are anti-western and it's a weird thing in terms of where you come across it. I've had some brilliant and amazing conversations with anti-westerners and it's eye opening. But we tend to travel independently.
If you stuck to expat circles and tourist circles especially if accompanied by someone else (eg a husband) you might not have much exposure to it. Doubly so if it's obvious you have £££££.
If you were a single woman, working and not having the same escort and having more exposure to more people, you probably would come across this much more.
I can honestly believe that you can live in a country and be completely closeted away from a lot of the darker side of things from a country.
By the same token you could be over sensitive to absolute nonsense in the UK because you mixed in certain circles, had a lot of free time on your hands and the press was free and didn't cover up a whole load of the shit out there.
I can't help feeling if there was a free press the darkness of Dubai would scare the shit out of the fragile Expat community.