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Why so much hate on MN?

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Oncetwicethreetimesmore · 21/09/2026 18:44

@MNHQ
Why so much hate on MN?
Posters hiding behind complaints about the government, presenting themselves as reasonable actors, to push hate about asylum seekers, people with disabilities, benefit claimants..Mostly the same names all day everyday.
I am told to report - MN just not interested.
I am told to hide the thread..
Why isn't moderation better?
I know this will always exist and exists on other platforms but MN makes no effort to even try to anything about it.
You can't really sell MN as a caring, supportive site with all this stuff offered on a daily basis in active.

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 18:33

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:23

Which brings us back round to the consistency of deletions. Is telling somebody to grow up a personal attack? It's hard to keep up. Two posters have said it. Have they both been deleted?

Personally, I don't think it is a personal attack and I don't think it warrants deleting. Regardless of who is saying it.

I have seen infinitely more egregious and offensive posts left to stand, even after reporting, hence my objections to the inconsistent nature of the moderation.

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 18:33

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:25

Same as those who reckon they live next door to asylum seeker hotels - or used to, I suppose.

I don't think I have seen anyone on this thread claim that? Could you link to the post please?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 18:34

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:09

I agree with that actually. I have never been on benefits and my opinion counts, as does yours.

We just have different opinions. Mine is “ there but for the grace of God”.

Same. But the atheist version!Wink

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:34

dreamiesformolly · 25/09/2026 16:33

You might think you know these people's full circumstances but you almost definitely don't have the full picture. PIP is very difficult to get and I simply do not believe you that you know four people who are faking disability. You're just choosing to assume that to suit your narrative. (And before you start assuming I must be on benefits myself, I'm not - I'm very fortunately still able to work, for now, albeit I have various chronic conditions I need to accommodate. But unlike some people I'm actually capable of empathising with those who need extra help in life, especially as I'm likely to need it myself one day.)

And you can call me dramatic if you like, I don't give a shit. What I actually am is angry. Not with any one specific poster, but with the utter ignorance and selfishness so many people display on these threads.

I am 100% positive I know these people and their details as I know them well. You choose not to believe me as you don't like facts. PIP is not that hard to get if one knows how to fill in the forms and what to say. There's an industry out of there of people who quite legitimately help people to fill in the forms and because they are back paid from when they first claimed, they agree to pay 50% of their backpay to these people. I don't know of any that have failed in their application with this help.

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:35

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:03

One is son of acquaintance. Just passed driving test, bought 5 year old BMW, now private number plate and when having his latest review she had to hide his savings as he could only keep 6k in savings (think it's 6k)

Yep. As I suspected you know feck all about PIP. There would be no need for your acquaintance (who is seems unusually keen to share her son's financial circumstances with you) to hide savings.

If I was a suspicious type I'd conclude you are telling porkies.

Edited

And you'd be wrong!

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:38

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 18:33

I don't think I have seen anyone on this thread claim that? Could you link to the post please?

Was I specific to this thread? I don't believe so.

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:40

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 17:46

Why does she have to hide his savings? Has it suddenly become means tested but they’ve kept it a secret?

Possibly because he gets money on top of pip that is means tested. He doesn't work, he's in his 40's and isn't physically disabled but apparently suffers with anxiety but I've never met him although he lives near me. He mostly stays with his gf. Passed his test with flying colours so can't be that anxious. Oh, and as an aside, she tells me he rants about the government and asylum seekers. I am not making this up.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 18:42

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:34

I am 100% positive I know these people and their details as I know them well. You choose not to believe me as you don't like facts. PIP is not that hard to get if one knows how to fill in the forms and what to say. There's an industry out of there of people who quite legitimately help people to fill in the forms and because they are back paid from when they first claimed, they agree to pay 50% of their backpay to these people. I don't know of any that have failed in their application with this help.

So you know all of their details and you know them well, but you didn't know enough to know that there would be no need to hide savings for PIP because it isn't means tested anyway?

Hmm

dreamiesformolly · 25/09/2026 18:47

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:34

I am 100% positive I know these people and their details as I know them well. You choose not to believe me as you don't like facts. PIP is not that hard to get if one knows how to fill in the forms and what to say. There's an industry out of there of people who quite legitimately help people to fill in the forms and because they are back paid from when they first claimed, they agree to pay 50% of their backpay to these people. I don't know of any that have failed in their application with this help.

I like facts just fine. You're the one who appears to be scared of them. 'Not that hard to get', well as I was saying to a pp, why don't you apply for it yourself then, seeing as you seem so jealous of people who get it? The way you're talking, it'd be a doddle.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 19:02

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 17:45

If you believe that Labour "rewards the workshy", could you tell me a) whether you are confident that there were never any fake claims for PIP when the Tories were in power, and b) why you think the proportion of new claims that are successful has been steadily dropping under Labour, and how this downward trend supports their alleged attempts to "reward the workshy"?

No response to this yet @LuckyHazelFox. Is that because you're still ignoring me for some inexplicable reason, or is it simply the case that you can't think of a good answer?

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 25/09/2026 19:03

Passed his test with flying colours so can't be that anxious

Well there we go. Apparently people can't possibly suffer from one of the multitude of Anxiety disorders if they can pass a driving test.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 19:05

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 25/09/2026 19:03

Passed his test with flying colours so can't be that anxious

Well there we go. Apparently people can't possibly suffer from one of the multitude of Anxiety disorders if they can pass a driving test.

Indeed. It's almost as if people think that people might be affected by different conditions in different ways, isn't it?!

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 19:18

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 19:02

No response to this yet @LuckyHazelFox. Is that because you're still ignoring me for some inexplicable reason, or is it simply the case that you can't think of a good answer?

I didn't realise it was mandatory to answer and within a certain time frame. The work shy appear under every government's watch. Labour's back benchers like welfare to be handled delicately - their seats are at stake after all. Not sure about why the need for your last question. Posting etiquette applies to all of us -including you.

DuncinToffee · 25/09/2026 19:23

Any examples of these delicate benefits that were handed out?

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 19:25

Not really, no. I'd rather do the MN crossword, which I'm about to. You could always start a thread.

DuncinToffee · 25/09/2026 19:27

That answers the question, thanks.

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 19:30

Great, now I can hide this thread 👌

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 19:51

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 19:30

Great, now I can hide this thread 👌

Good idea!

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 20:08

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 19:51

Good idea!

Well it's run its course and mods have answered so pointless continuing, unless posters are just hanging around to argue.

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 20:26

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 20:08

Well it's run its course and mods have answered so pointless continuing, unless posters are just hanging around to argue.

The mods answered three days ago, yet you kept posting. So not sure why you are suddenly so reticent. As you have hidden the thread you won't see my post, so it will remain a mystery! Or perhaps not.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 20:29

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 19:18

I didn't realise it was mandatory to answer and within a certain time frame. The work shy appear under every government's watch. Labour's back benchers like welfare to be handled delicately - their seats are at stake after all. Not sure about why the need for your last question. Posting etiquette applies to all of us -including you.

No mandatory timeframe at all, I was merely seeking clarification in light of your previous post in which you referenced an intention to ignore me.

It seems that you are responding to me but you haven't actually addressed my question, so I guess that clarifies the situation. Fair enough, it isn't compulsory to answer.

pointythings · 25/09/2026 23:45

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:35

And you'd be wrong!

Nope. PIP is not means tested. Universal Credit is. But I love how confidently wrong you are! My DS gets PIP. Savings are not mentioned on the application.

He doesn't get UC because he does have savings. And works.

LizzieW1969 · 25/09/2026 23:49

PIP is definitely not means tested! We went through the process with DD1 (17) and we weren’t asked any questions about our income or capital, we were just asked about her needs.

KateDibi · Yesterday 08:00

I found this interesting.

Benefits claims for teenagers diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and autism have more than tripled since the pandemic, with the sharpest rise seen in the richest areas.

More than one in 40 teenagers in the most affluent areas received Personal Independence Payments (Pip) last year for ADHD or autism, a study from the Nuffield Trust has found.

The findings have come to light before a government review into ADHD, autism and mental health services as concerns grow over their diagnosis rates.

Researchers said higher rates of new ADHD diagnoses in wealthier areas could partly reflect affluent families making greater use of private routes to diagnosis.

They warned that soaring demand for diagnosis and treatment risked “crowding out” the most severe cases and the “unnecessary and possibly harmful pathologisation of a sizeable proportion of the population”.

The Nuffield Trust report shows a quarter of 16 to 24-year-olds screened positive for ADHD symptoms in 2023-24, up from around 14 per cent in 2007. Researchers stressed that screening positive for symptoms does not amount to a clinical diagnosis.

Self-reported autism among 16 to 24-year-olds has also risen, from around 5 per cent in 2022 to 9 per cent in 2025

Differentforgirls · Yesterday 08:06

KateDibi · Yesterday 08:00

I found this interesting.

Benefits claims for teenagers diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and autism have more than tripled since the pandemic, with the sharpest rise seen in the richest areas.

More than one in 40 teenagers in the most affluent areas received Personal Independence Payments (Pip) last year for ADHD or autism, a study from the Nuffield Trust has found.

The findings have come to light before a government review into ADHD, autism and mental health services as concerns grow over their diagnosis rates.

Researchers said higher rates of new ADHD diagnoses in wealthier areas could partly reflect affluent families making greater use of private routes to diagnosis.

They warned that soaring demand for diagnosis and treatment risked “crowding out” the most severe cases and the “unnecessary and possibly harmful pathologisation of a sizeable proportion of the population”.

The Nuffield Trust report shows a quarter of 16 to 24-year-olds screened positive for ADHD symptoms in 2023-24, up from around 14 per cent in 2007. Researchers stressed that screening positive for symptoms does not amount to a clinical diagnosis.

Self-reported autism among 16 to 24-year-olds has also risen, from around 5 per cent in 2022 to 9 per cent in 2025

Scary.