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Why so much hate on MN?

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Oncetwicethreetimesmore · 21/09/2026 18:44

@MNHQ
Why so much hate on MN?
Posters hiding behind complaints about the government, presenting themselves as reasonable actors, to push hate about asylum seekers, people with disabilities, benefit claimants..Mostly the same names all day everyday.
I am told to report - MN just not interested.
I am told to hide the thread..
Why isn't moderation better?
I know this will always exist and exists on other platforms but MN makes no effort to even try to anything about it.
You can't really sell MN as a caring, supportive site with all this stuff offered on a daily basis in active.

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LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 17:37

Do I need to be on benefits to have an opinion? No I don't believe I do. People can talk about what they want, as has been confirmed.

pointythings · 25/09/2026 17:38

roxyro · 25/09/2026 16:11

Oh how dramatic. I know 4 people on PIP and not one is disabled in the true sense. All have anxiety or so they claim. One is son of acquaintance. Just passed driving test, bought 5 year old BMW, now private number plate and when having his latest review she had to hide his savings as he could only keep 6k in savings (think it's 6k). She told me last year he gets so much he doesn't know what to do with it. Admittedly doesn't smoke or drink, stays mostly at his gf's place. After most recent review they stopped his mobility, £200 per month and he's up in arms about it. Even been to MP about it. Makes my blood boil. I'm all for people getting help but in my experience it's grifters who game the system and the ones in genuine need get turned down.

PIP is not means tested, so you're either getting confused with UC, which does have a savings limit, or you're lacking information in which case you should check before posting.

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:39

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 17:33

Is that the benefit David Cameron claimed?

It is. The version for children, DLA. Dave would have been entitled to a free cinema pass, a blue badge and a motability car on behalf of his son.

I feel sure he would have preferred not to be entitled to those things.

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:43

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 17:37

Do I need to be on benefits to have an opinion? No I don't believe I do. People can talk about what they want, as has been confirmed.

Of course. But it is best for posters to know what they are actually talking about and not drift into making the same things up that others have made up a hundred times before. One can spot the fibs from space.

Piggywaspushed · 25/09/2026 17:44

So much of this is now tangential to the OP. It was literally casually dropped in bizarrely a propos of nothing. Probably best to ignore the lure.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 17:45

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 17:20

Yes make sure you do continue to post, like I intend to. There are false claims in benefits and Labour rewards the work shy. My sister lives next door to one who has had to be reported for harassment. Its pie in the sky to believe fake PIP claims aren't successful.

If you believe that Labour "rewards the workshy", could you tell me a) whether you are confident that there were never any fake claims for PIP when the Tories were in power, and b) why you think the proportion of new claims that are successful has been steadily dropping under Labour, and how this downward trend supports their alleged attempts to "reward the workshy"?

Ved · 25/09/2026 17:45

It does make me laugh how the benefit bashers and haters know so much about all their neighbours and acquaintances finances, (and extended family members,) and exactly what benefits they receive. And how pretty much most of them are 'faking it' and have nothing wrong with them. 😆

Pure unadulterated ableism, and vitriol, and hate spreading.

They know NOTHING about these people, and are just big billy bullshitters. Posting on here purely to bash benefit claimants....

No-one is telling anyone how much benefits, universal credit, or PIP they are getting, and they are definitely not telling them why they're getting it.

Benefit bashers are soooo tedious. 🙄

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 17:46

roxyro · 25/09/2026 16:11

Oh how dramatic. I know 4 people on PIP and not one is disabled in the true sense. All have anxiety or so they claim. One is son of acquaintance. Just passed driving test, bought 5 year old BMW, now private number plate and when having his latest review she had to hide his savings as he could only keep 6k in savings (think it's 6k). She told me last year he gets so much he doesn't know what to do with it. Admittedly doesn't smoke or drink, stays mostly at his gf's place. After most recent review they stopped his mobility, £200 per month and he's up in arms about it. Even been to MP about it. Makes my blood boil. I'm all for people getting help but in my experience it's grifters who game the system and the ones in genuine need get turned down.

Why does she have to hide his savings? Has it suddenly become means tested but they’ve kept it a secret?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 17:46

pointythings · 25/09/2026 17:38

PIP is not means tested, so you're either getting confused with UC, which does have a savings limit, or you're lacking information in which case you should check before posting.

Good point.

AutumnLoverButNotYet · 25/09/2026 17:49

KateDibi · 25/09/2026 16:15

Can I get ADHD from being run over?

I see the award rate is 43% for ADHD claims.

Edited

First of all, I'd like to make it clear I don't have ADHD (well not diagnosed anyway!). So I have no skin in the game as far as that's concerned.

I do now get Pip after I became disabled, it's a physical disability. not that it should matter, but it seems to to you so I just wanted to be clear..

The statistics for the claimant with ADHD are very skewed because you have one main 'category' (that's not quite the right word, but I can't think what else to call it. People who are successful getting PIP, will not just have ADHD, they will have several other issues limiting their ability to cope or function in the same way as someone that doesn't have any of those things.

PIP is awarded on impact of the disability, it is not awarded on a diagnosis.

I am totally sure that a small, very small percentage of people somehow cheat the system, but that is a tiny amount, and anyone that tells you it is easy to get has not been through the system.

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 17:51

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:34

I don't think anyone said that there aren't fake PIP claims. There are, but not on the scale some suggest. It is odd though how the fakers are always boasters 🤔

Did the Tories reward the work shy?

Edited

It can be as odd as you think. It happens.

AutumnLoverButNotYet · 25/09/2026 17:52

Ved · 25/09/2026 17:45

It does make me laugh how the benefit bashers and haters know so much about all their neighbours and acquaintances finances, (and extended family members,) and exactly what benefits they receive. And how pretty much most of them are 'faking it' and have nothing wrong with them. 😆

Pure unadulterated ableism, and vitriol, and hate spreading.

They know NOTHING about these people, and are just big billy bullshitters. Posting on here purely to bash benefit claimants....

No-one is telling anyone how much benefits, universal credit, or PIP they are getting, and they are definitely not telling them why they're getting it.

Benefit bashers are soooo tedious. 🙄

Well said!! couldn't agree more.

AutumnLoverButNotYet · 25/09/2026 17:53

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 17:46

Why does she have to hide his savings? Has it suddenly become means tested but they’ve kept it a secret?

Yes, just one clue that they know absolutely nothing about it!!

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:53

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 17:51

It can be as odd as you think. It happens.

Yes I can accept there is the odd idiot that boasts about fiddling PIP or whatever. But it is very intriguing how every MN benefit basher knows one of these idiots.

KateDibi · 25/09/2026 17:54

What I found interesting is that PIP is designed to help people cope with the extra costs of their disability. We all understand that for some people this might be a carer, a cleaner, or a mobility scooter etc. But several times I have heard that for people with ADHD, or anxiety, the extra cost is 'taxis, as public transport may be difficult'. I've never actually heard another example - keen to hear them with an open mind.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 17:54

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:53

Yes I can accept there is the odd idiot that boasts about fiddling PIP or whatever. But it is very intriguing how every MN benefit basher knows one of these idiots.

Edited

Not just one... they appear to all know loads!

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:55

Anyway, the benefit bashing is a derail from the subject of the thread, but a very good example of it.

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 17:57

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LizzieW1969 · 25/09/2026 18:03

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:53

Yes I can accept there is the odd idiot that boasts about fiddling PIP or whatever. But it is very intriguing how every MN benefit basher knows one of these idiots.

Edited

Yes that is curious. I certainly don’t know of anyone who boasts about fiddling the system to obtain PIP! Both my DD1 (17) and my DB (58) claim it and it was a tough process to get there.

I know of several other genuine claimants too.

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:04

KateDibi · 25/09/2026 16:39

So, first you inferred I was without empathy, and now I am a hater?

I shall give you a miss, and will continue to post.

And continue to get your posts deleted? Seems a waste of time to me tbh.

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:09

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 17:37

Do I need to be on benefits to have an opinion? No I don't believe I do. People can talk about what they want, as has been confirmed.

I agree with that actually. I have never been on benefits and my opinion counts, as does yours.

We just have different opinions. Mine is “ there but for the grace of God”.

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:22

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:09

I agree with that actually. I have never been on benefits and my opinion counts, as does yours.

We just have different opinions. Mine is “ there but for the grace of God”.

Yes I understand that.

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:23

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:04

And continue to get your posts deleted? Seems a waste of time to me tbh.

Which brings us back round to the consistency of deletions. Is telling somebody to grow up a personal attack? It's hard to keep up. Two posters have said it. Have they both been deleted?

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:25

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:53

Yes I can accept there is the odd idiot that boasts about fiddling PIP or whatever. But it is very intriguing how every MN benefit basher knows one of these idiots.

Edited

Same as those who reckon they live next door to asylum seeker hotels - or used to, I suppose.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 18:30

KateDibi · 25/09/2026 17:54

What I found interesting is that PIP is designed to help people cope with the extra costs of their disability. We all understand that for some people this might be a carer, a cleaner, or a mobility scooter etc. But several times I have heard that for people with ADHD, or anxiety, the extra cost is 'taxis, as public transport may be difficult'. I've never actually heard another example - keen to hear them with an open mind.

I have adhd but I don't claim PIP because I don't need it. PIP isn't awarded because of a specific diagnosis but because of the particular difficulties that each individual is facing. I know a lot of people with adhd and very few of them actually claim.

ADHD costs me a bloody fortune though. I am lucky enough to be a high earner and so I can suck it up, but there are undoubtedly extra costs.