Official Complaint to Mumsnet

I would dearly love to hear from @justinemumsnet as I am genuinely really surprised she would be on board with this advert.

Thanks - saw the post after I'd posted. I type to slow😁

Just a thought, is this one thread we want reporters to report on? (Sorry if this has been mentioned before, haven’t had time to read whole thread, only on page 11) and now got stuff to do).

@GrisleyR sex was deliberately added into active yesterday. There's a link to the thread either above or on the previous page.

Sex and motherhood has NEVER been taboo. Otherwise women would have stopped at one child, throughout history. C'mon, they used to do it in the same room as the children. In fact, in many countries they still do, what with lack of space.

And, by saying we don't there to be taboo of sex in motherhood, they are creating their own dialogue.

@whatyoulookingfor no, you’re not alone - but they probably thought that the word clit strayed into ‘taboo for mothers’ territory and that we would combust if we saw it.

It's gone from Active for me - but a sex thread about riiming has popped up.
I've never seen a sex thread before 🤔

This discussion is definitely being stifled.

I agree with the op actually. Was looking to try to “hide” them as I do with threads that I find inappropriate but no such luck.

Has the management of MNHQ changed? Who thought it was a good idea to move sex into active when the place is absolutely crawling with misogynists, TRAs and incels?

LilyMumsnet · Yesterday 19:11

Hi all

We have stopped excluding sex from active but you can hide the topic by going to your talk settings. Flowers

Taken from the other thread. Used to be automatically hidden in active but now you have to go in and hide it. And coincidentally a day before launch! What amazing timing!

Screw you victims/survivors of sexual assault - look at the tiny green pseudo willy!

The baby bottles on the insta ad; the use of vulva havers and womb havers ... either this is an April Fool that went live early or MN has another 'dodgy intern' situation.
If I was MNHQ I'd be considering how much to bill Smile Makers for damage to reputation - who the fuck puts baby bottles in a vibrators' ad and can't say women whilst trying to sell to mothers?

I’m just excited to see how the Daily Mail are going to summarise this whole debacle.

I think your knowledge of female biology is just better than the right on intern who came up with such a crap marketing message.

OTOH if they promote their own work its a useful warning to future female partners they may find.

Oh dear, this is an own goal @mnhq

Thinking of all the womb owners I know that I could buy one for, my cat, my horse, the 3 year old girl over the road. Best not suggest it to my Aunt who had a hysterectomy though ... She might be offended

Also, and I'm prepared to be criticised but who the fuck uses a vibratory on their vulva... Am I odd in mainly using on my clit or for penetration

Well it makes sense to go the whole hog and promote bottle feeding at the same time. After all the main purpose of our bodes is to be up to speed, toned and prepped for the mighty penis-haver.

In France they offer women physiotherapy to help with childbirth recovery if needed. Here, we get to pay for shrek's ear from someone who thinks my clitoris is floating somewhere in my abdomen.

Another one that wants to have noted my absolute disgust at the choice of words in this advert. We are women not bloody vulva owners or people with wombs, and if you dare come back and change it to cis - women and other women then I think I might explode. Stop pandering to a tiny proportion of the population and think about your core business... You know, us mum's.

Oh Christ. This just gets worse and worse. There are no words 😮

V v minor point but I could never buy a product from idiots who confuse the words ‘interaction’ and ‘activation’.

Fools. Sexist, pig-ignorant sub-educated fools.

This is interesting:

www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/4733509-have-some-peoples-hidden-topics-become-unhidden?page=1

The day before launch, lots of people who had chosen to have the 'sex' topics hidden on active suddenly had it appearing. Apparently a "technical issue" but you had to go in manually to change your preferences for what you see.

I think a lot of people who have those boards hidden do so because of previous sexual assault. So was there a blanket revoking of that just so everyone had to look at the vibrator launch thread whether they wanted to or not?

That's absolutely fucking appalling.

Agreed.

Why do they say Mom? Shouldn't be mum at the very least? And why are they using such sweeping generalisations to advertise this products mums are all rather different. Some have teenage or adult children. We are just women or people you know, not some strange Mom species.

This has made me so cross. Just adding my voice to WTF were you thinking @mnhq??

I want to write lots about how this has pissed me off but I'm too sleep deprived (from being up with the toddler all night, just in case anyone thinks that's a comment on my sex life)

Wheesht............ye ken fa.

For the "ahem" more mature among us.

bullies = bullets

Omg. How can Mumsnet have been so misguided