Linking Sensitive Threads to Social Networking Sites

Justmeandthekids I agree that this has been very sad, and has somehow tainted the site.

Oh.... a 'old' poster who disn't know about the facebook and twitter thingy next to each post.

Even though that had being discussed quite a lot at the time it was introduced....

Perhaps time to make the guidelines/reasons why they are on certain posts but not others clearer???

Also totally agree with WWIFN last posts.
What actions are you going to promote a certain level of respect for other posters (remember they are all human beings on the other side...) ?
What sanctions are available?

Do you feel you have any responsability in the way that some threads are discussed on facebook and Twitter seeing that you have actively encouraged people to do so? My feeling is that the answer is 'NO' in which case I can see how you don't see what happened this week such a big issue.

:(:(:( for this site tbh.

was it the childrens bathroom specifically - did they have ore than one bathroom?

i think that where there are topics that do not hve the link to other social netweokring sites, MNHQ could but a little one liner asking people not to link on those threads.

of course this mens thtat you can still do this, but i feel that there will be clear netticate framework, which most of us will adhere to.

tbh, i didn't know that they were not there on soe topics until i read through some of the recent threads

So not entirely bollocks then

Justine I am sorry but I believe that the way MN has been promoting itself has also created this situation.

It is very well to want a site where people can get help and advice but if you also want a site that is extremely visible then you are going to stop people coming on here for advice for fear of what has happened this week.

When I joined the site, I agreed to a few things, like the fact that any of my posts could find their way in a book. Why is this issue of 'etiquette' and 'sensitivity' not part of it too?
Why is it that there is a comment about troll hunting at the top of the pages but nothing about 'sensitivity' at the top of the 'sensitive' subjects such as SN or relationships?

I also don't believe that this 'incident' has highlighted to people that they need to be acrefuland it is not 'acceptable' by the MN community to tweet about sentive subjects. A lot of poeple will join this site after this event. Some will have missed it all together.

If you want people to really take that into account, I am afraid you will have to be much clearer in your expectations!

It was several issues all intertwined, one of them being, leaving it in the childrens bathroom.

Bollocks!

And you call me naive.

Honestly I would be shocked, not stunned, if I found my DH using porn. I know he's not anti porn but wouldn't really have much time to actually look at it, I would be offended more so about double penetration that an oral sex shot. That goes without saying really. Same as if it was a particular fetish.

I'm not at all naive. Naive in relation to what?

But see the fact that someone can protect their tweets is exactly why you cannot possibly police any kind of policy on here. Similarly with facebook - you can choose who does and who doesn't read it, so there is no way of even being able to know who tweeted what and who said what to who and who started it and who came on the thread because of twitter or active convos.

This is not about one thread. I have no opinion on the thread, and at no point did I make any derogatory comments about the op of that thread, the only thing I said was that the thread was very much a who-can-voice-the-strongest-opinion contest, and I stand by that. But that has no bearing on my opinion of the op or what she went through.

Fwiw I don't like porn and I wouldn't like it if my dh was using it. But I don't feel strongly enough about it to voice an opinion really, and I object to being called someone's "porn mate" just because I think someone can tweet about a public thread on a public message board. I would have the same opinion if the subject matter was something I felt strongly about, I have voiced that opinion enough on here for people to be able to realise that.

WWIFN I said it on the other thread but will say it here too: I think that sensitivity and privacy go hand in hand. Privacy is potentially not such a big deal if you're posting about the mundane parts of your life, but more so if you're posting about more sensitive things, or even about other people who could be recognised if you were recogniseable.

Alouise, I don't believe you're that naive.

All threads deviate, mutate and change and most sane people object to the exploitation of women, or men and especially children.

What never ceases to astound on here is the level of denial that people/men actually use porn. Then there was the description of what act he'd actually been looking at. The further abhorrence that it was a double penetration shot. Would she have been less shocked if it was a blow job scene??

Why you would ask your children before your husband before your husband about ownership of such a thing.......life really is stranger than fiction!

I was going to leave all the discussions but after her rantings last night, twisting my words, my context and criticising my spelling on Twitter??! I have a serious "fuck it" moment.

Alouiseg....most people's objection to porn includes the exploitation of women, it's a big ask to expect people to comment on the secret use without talking about why they object to it.

It was a clumsy situation and it was handled clumsily, which was my original post in the thread. It degenerated quickly into a load of old bollocks and back to the pro/anti porn brigade. Which wasn't what the original thread was really about. It was a scrum and a free for all, and one of the biggest rucks I've seen on Mn for a long time.

I won't be opening my twitter feed up, there's enough mnetters on there to give you quotes Dittany. If you weren't on there before you don't need to be now. Or you could just ask to follow like anyone else.