Linking Sensitive Threads to Social Networking Sites

I also see my membership of MN as a privilege and an honour, and I do see it as a community. I really do.
It's the only one to which I really belong - well, I suppose there is the school gate and there is our road, but this is the place I gravitate to on a daily basis.

I know a few people's names on here but mainly through private messaging or email, and I wouldn't pass on their names without knowing I could trust the person I was telling...personal information needs to remain very much within the bounds of sensitivity and implicit confidence. I see having any of that sort of information as a privilege and an honour, never to be abused...even if absolutely gasping to shout it out on here, that I have an email from someone famous or highly respected. You just don't.

And whether I could find out their addresses or not, it isn't something I would wish to do, because something stops me, and that is probably the concept that it would not be a decent thing to do, and I wouldn't want them to do it to me.

So you could look at it that way...maybe ALG would be happy to have this done to her, I don't know, but if she wouldn't I would suggest she desists from doing it to others.

It's very simple, really.

I agree with bibbity. I have recently started to write a v short column/piece for a mag and even a year ago I may have linked to it here to see what people thought but now feels v different.

Justine's response lost me when she mentioned "communities such as ours ..." because the whole message behind these two or three threads is, of course, that Mumsnet is NOT a community.

And there is no longer any point pretending that we are.

So, time for a re-think and a shake-up, much as there was after the DM affair.

dittany if I truly wanted to I could find out so much information about most people on here - anyone could it isn't hard.

If you want to be as unrecognisable as possible in rl be circumspect at least.

HowDOYouThinkStalkersDoItTiggaxx

Well if she chooses not to apologise people will draw their own conclusions, not necessarily as generous as CiderhouseBob. At the moment MN feels like I've been warped back in time to the playground. It's so depressing..

Well I've noticed it before, that she tends to post with the heart of a politician...no apologies, no giving in whatsoever - but she was nice on one thread I met her on, so there is a balance there - she isn't, like, Pure Evil.

However I do think on this occasion she has acted wrongly. And I think she should apologise, but I'm really not sure she has it in her to. It is a shame as I suspect she wants to.

Alouiseg - you have been told that your actions have caused upset and hurt to another person. Even if it was accidental, you still owe her an apology - that is good manners and decent behaviour. You shouldn't need to be told this.

I will never even bother looking at another post by AlouiseG, I'm sure many other people will skip on past her posts, as she has outed herself as a person with no compassion. The original tweet could have been excused, but the lack of remorse for the hurt she caused SS is really unforgivable.

dittany no you are not anonimous online. Not in terms of that everyone on here knows your name and address, but in so much as that you can never be sure who might know your name and address. If you (not you personally, anyone on here) are posting information about yourself on a website such as here you have no idea of knowing who is reading it. People don't have to identify themselves to you - they may choose not to in fact.

Which is why you should never post anything online that you wouldn't want your friends and family in rl to read.

Even by namechanging you are not anonimous - "found porn in the bathroom" would be easily identifyable to dh or children of the op in that thread.

People have the right to post sensitive information here. They just shouldn't consider that the internet is a safe haven for doing so.

Posie, why don't you just post the actual message rather than making up a load of bull?

I've replied to your pm btw.

And what you did regarding linking someone's heartbreaking situation online was uncalled for and attention seeking, btw MN tweeters....now that you tell everyone your real names online and then start threads telling everyone....do you think I should tell everyone your real names? I mean it's public afterall.

Good lord alouise Having read all this I wonder what sort of a RL you have to bring so much shit to the internet

Well I could have posted it on here. It was the comparison to religion that really offended you wasn't it.

I can't bleach my mind of what I've read.

Alouiseg....I am deeply disappointed in your personal message, especially regarding what you've gleaned in deleted threads. I guess the internet really doesn't represent real people to you, I actually thought behind your posting was a nice person.....seems I am wrong.

WWIFN:

It's not about privacy. It's not about anonymity.

You've missed the point, there is NO anonymity online.

MovesOnWithHerLifeTiggaxx

Alouise, I said I would find it difficult to see where DH would have the time to look at porn, given we spend most evenings together, his work laptop has blocks to prevent any porn and our family PC is in the playroom. He is also not as technically savvy as me, or indeed my BIL who has put blocks on our PC. His phone contract is in my name as are all bills.....

But if you have any other ideas about when and how my husband is using porn please make your suggestions.

He's been to Amsterdam and, whilst he denies any wrong doing, I have no shame in admitting that he could have done anything whilst there...and I would never know. There are people that know their partners don't use porn, those that think they know their partners don't use porn, those that don't want to know either way and those that know that their partners are using porn. I just don't understand why you have to insist that everybody uses porn.

Good question MmeLindt, honestly, I'm not sure. Ive never gone out of my way to "break any rules" but when I was c&p the link it didn't occur to me to check with the rules first. I certainly didnt look for a Twitter or Facebook widget to make the link.

Aloiseg
Can I ask if you would have linked to the thread if you had known that it was frowned upon my MNHQ, and if there was a statement to that affect on the topic.

Which still does not address the other issue here -

Anyone can link to a thread on Twitter. Any journalist can spot a thread on MN and use it for an article. And we can do nothing about it.