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Just blacked out and shaking

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essbee · 25/04/2005 21:55

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essbee · 28/04/2005 09:47

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jangly · 28/04/2005 09:10

I would have thought the payments should have to be paid at regular dates of the month. Try the CAB? A solicitors' letter might shake him up too. Wouldn't cost you anything as you could get legal aid.

JanH · 28/04/2005 09:04

Well done for getting DS out early, essbee! (since there isn't a [proud] one!)

Have you got your bank statements for the year handy? (Or at least would you be able to find them if you looked...mine are in lots of different piles!) Worth checking to see what dates he has paid before; only if soupy is right, and he has changed the date before, he might be diddling you out of a whole month over the year .

If you have DDs set up on the basis of when he pays you then you need to be paid as agreed. Anyway isn't he paid monthly? Why does he need to change the date??? Very fishy.

Hope you have a good day, flower, and that these ADs are the right ones for you

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essbee · 28/04/2005 08:58

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essbee · 28/04/2005 08:51

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SoupDragon · 28/04/2005 08:23

Hasn't he changed the date like this before?

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essbee · 27/04/2005 22:01

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MarsLady · 27/04/2005 20:30

hi essbee

kid · 27/04/2005 20:24

he obviously forgot to mention it to you too on your behalf.

LGJ · 27/04/2005 20:21

Well, what ever else you do, make sure you tell the bank that the arse is being an arse, and get a temporary (sp) overdraft.

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essbee · 27/04/2005 20:20

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kid · 27/04/2005 20:18

I think if he is going to be paying you 2 weeks later then he will owe you 2 weeks money. He can't just change the date to suit himself without making sure it suits you too.

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essbee · 27/04/2005 20:16

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essbee · 27/04/2005 20:12

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melsy · 27/04/2005 12:55

Thats go if Hv is being suportive maybe she can be the one to refer you to the right therapy.

Hope your having a calmer day inside today. Did U call mood gym ??

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essbee · 27/04/2005 12:41

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essbee · 26/04/2005 22:22

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soapbox · 26/04/2005 21:17

Essbee - just seen this - are you okay?

DH is out tonight but if you need me to pop over anytime (provided its before I've hoovered up a bottle of wine ) then just let me know!

Do you still have my mobile number - if not email me and I'll let you have it. I'd rather you called if things go pear shaped than suffer in silence and since I'm trying sooooo hard to limit my time on here I wouldn;t necessarily see any of your threads until after that bottle of wine

I've also found a folder of car stuff which you must have left here so let me know your address and I'll stick it in the post to you!

Hope things get smoother for you soon and that hte new ADs work better for you - but please call if you ever need any help! I'll be if you don't!

WideWebWitch · 26/04/2005 21:03

Essbee, just wanted to say I'm thinking of you too.

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essbee · 26/04/2005 20:41

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MarsLady · 26/04/2005 20:25

well done darling. Good! Sending you a big kiss.

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essbee · 26/04/2005 20:18

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SoupDragon · 26/04/2005 19:20

You're not going to try and take control again, you are going to do it. Change the way you think about thins into a positive. I WILL rather than I SHOULD.

jangly · 26/04/2005 19:14

These new tabs will help with that. Everything crossed for you!

ks · 26/04/2005 19:09

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