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Good Days / Bad Days.....why does one small thing make us 'flip?'

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TiredBunny · 28/03/2005 22:50

Does anyone else go for weeks feeling ok then suddenly have a 'flip' and go through a few days of feeling awful? I have been feeling better than I have for a while then suddenly becuase of something silly I feel I have slumped right back down again. Wouldnt mind but I have had a nice day and been to a good friends for tea where I felt fine. Now I am home alone (not including dd) and I feel like I want to cry, scream and shout.

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DaftKid · 30/03/2005 20:53

hi
and thanks for taking the time to say hi

actualisedad · 30/03/2005 20:39

newish...I'm one of the dad's; mt dw is on mn, but we keep ourselves anonymous, so she doesn't always have to be apologising for me .

Hello!

DaftKid · 30/03/2005 20:33

are you new here?havent 'seen' you before?

actualisedad · 30/03/2005 20:30

lol

Evesmama · 30/03/2005 20:28

hm, cant do nowt right today

actualisedad · 30/03/2005 20:25

Eh, Daftkid, did you forget to change your name back? Daft kid!

DaftKid · 30/03/2005 20:12

thanks actualisedad, dp has been really great and has been trying his best to help lift the black cloud, but its just hovering
plus now neighbours are playing booming music and just put dd to bed

actualisedad · 30/03/2005 20:02

I'm sorry you've had a birthday, Evesmama. [oops - I keep typing sda - need dyslexic emoticon]

I used to find my birthdays really hard when I was depressed (early teens to early twenties)...

Evesmama · 30/03/2005 19:55

been really incredibly low today and it was my birthday, so dont know why, but felt like a could have given everything up this afternoon

Dior · 30/03/2005 11:19

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TiredBunny · 29/03/2005 21:21

I am feeling a little better now.... just ironing and watching telly. wish there was a way to stop the ups and downs though.

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TiredBunny · 29/03/2005 15:11

They are a pile of pants arent they.... the whjole benefit system..... i get nearly nothing and it stinks. Has taken me 2 years to convince them I owe them 1000!!!!

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Evesmama · 29/03/2005 14:48

and now got a letter from council tax, showing they still have him down as being on JSA(which he never got anyway and had to do without for 6 months)

so after a lovely call, found out we owe them £100's

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TiredBunny · 29/03/2005 11:09

you need to tell him how it makes you feel.

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Evesmama · 29/03/2005 09:29

he gos in a mood over silly things, he was stomping round this moring..no idea why and couldnt be botherd asking!, but his atitude has made me grumpy now
hes only at work today, then off again tomorrow!
miserable git

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TiredBunny · 29/03/2005 09:26

Does he get in a mood often??? HAve you told him that??

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Evesmama · 29/03/2005 09:25

and ive found if dp is in a mood, it puts me ofcourse for the day

Evesmama · 29/03/2005 09:19

and now shes sat as good as gold watching lil bill, while i type on here and sort out council tax crap! bless her

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TiredBunny · 29/03/2005 08:58

They do that dont they! they keep you ploughing on even when you dont want to.

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Evesmama · 29/03/2005 08:57

id give em a ring, thier in no rush are they!

i failed my driving test 'again' last week and came in in tears and dd came straighte over to me and kept hugging me and smileing at me shes not even two yet, but she was holding me together

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TiredBunny · 29/03/2005 08:55

Havent had the letter with an appointment for counselling yet but you would hope they wouldnt leave it too ling. 2 weeks since i saw doc though.

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TiredBunny · 29/03/2005 08:55

I think thast the worst bit about depression.... you never imagined it could be you. I thought I would be the patient earth mother who breast fed for years and made all my own food. All I can say is that my dd (3) is my best friend (Possibly too close????!!) and she seems happy enough .... though I have one friend who tells me she is disturbed becasue she still has little wee accidents quite regularly. I really try to do nice stuff with dd now.... crafty stuff, taking her to farms etc to give her some really happy experiences. Not that these are enough to outweigh the 'sad' time but they give us lots of good things to chat about. My trouble is that I save my really low times till she is in bed then feel like I am crumbling! I sat my dd on my knee one day when I was crying and she said 'whats the matter mummy, its ok mummy dont cry cos I love you and we are best friends arent we' I suppose now she is at the age where she can give something back to me i get a boost now and then. am waffling now!

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Evesmama · 29/03/2005 08:47

good luck with the counselling
when do you start?
i had it when i was younger and it really helped, but its only since i had dd ive got bad again, much worse than i ever was and im just so messed up i dont know who 'i' am anymore.
i dont want dd to remember this time and think this is how 'i am'..never in a million years to i dream id be this unhappy when i had a beautiful daughter and spend all day with her

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TiredBunny · 29/03/2005 08:39

yeh...... you sound a lot like me. i feel like crying now and have just woken up. I am taking my dd to nursery today so will get a break.... sometimes thats worse though cos i have nothing to do when she isnt around. I feel like people are just thinking I am always 'miserable' which isnt the case. I feel like this and cant do anything about it. I am soooo hopeful that counselling will help though.

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Evesmama · 29/03/2005 08:36

thankscant get any time out today as dp at work(and he doesnt realise 'i'need a break sometimes too, and have to take dd to doc and get my ad's.
like you i go from being really'up' to come crashing right back down, but my good times and bad times change every day, i sometimes feel i could have a diiferent form of depression ie manic?although dont think i know enough about it..just can feel incredibly high..then feel like walking out of a room half way through conversation and crying???
horrible isnt it?