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so down today

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nikcola · 24/03/2005 13:52

ive got to go to a friends party on sat and i really have no clothes (i no this is trivial compared to what some people are going through)

i went into town and there is nothing that fits me so i came home with a plain black v neck off the sholder top,
im really thinking about not going now as i feel embarressed and ashmed that everyone will look lovely and i will look like a fat ugly blob and i will proberlly end up getting very drunk and feeling sorry for myself

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nikcola · 24/03/2005 14:05

u are helping when i went out for my 21st in january i had nothing to wear so i worn a pick vneck thing and black trousers and every one looked lovely except me so i went in the loos and had a cry

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WigWamBam · 24/03/2005 14:05

Crossed posts, sorry. Have you got a branch of H&M anywhere near you, the bigger branches go up to size 32. You can also get larger sizes in bigger branches of New Look and Etam - and there's always Evans, if I dare say that word!

WigWamBam · 24/03/2005 14:04

Tell me to mind my own business if you like but what size clothes do you need?

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nikcola · 24/03/2005 14:04

im in luton sweetmonkey, and im a size 18-20 top and 22 trousers

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nikcola · 24/03/2005 14:03

ive got black trusers that i allways wear and ive stuck them in the wash,

ive ordered some new black trousers and a few t- shirts from next they are coming tomoorw but the trousers proberlly wont fit the t-shirts are too casual for the party,

as for shoes i need new shoes too i might get some on saturday i really hate shopping its gets me so upset why the f**k dont they make NICE clothers for bigger people

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sweetmonkey · 24/03/2005 14:02

where abouts do you live? if you dont mind me asking what size are you? im sure you will look lovely whatever you wear. if people judge you because of yr size then they are def not worth knowing!!
what about having yr hair different or a funky belt?
not sure if im helping at all

Bella23 · 24/03/2005 14:00

I totally sympathise with how you are feeling. Nothing quite like a shit shopping trip when you are feeling fat and have a do coming up. My advice is to look in your wardrobe and see if there is anything that you could spruce up perhaps by buying some new shoes etc. Sometimes you just need to try the shops again and try more stuff on, even stuff that you don't normally go for. Good Luck, remember we all feel like this sometimes but people at the party won't be thinking anything horribel about you, they'll be too busy drinking and chatting!

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nikcola · 24/03/2005 13:59

i no but i dont go out much and when i do i allways wear the same thing, i want to go out but i wll just feel unconfortable my weight really gets me down i no i shouldnt let it bit it does im still waiting for my diatitian appointment cause its getting worse soemtimes i really hate myself

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sweetmonkey · 24/03/2005 13:58

why dont you have a look in charity shops if y ou couldnt find anything in the high street,either for something to go with yr outfit - ie bright coloured bag, or shoes, or jewellery.could you not get some spray glitter and spray yr top with it . that will look v pretty and you'll sparkle too.
HTH

WigWamBam · 24/03/2005 13:57

Darling, you will look just as lovely as everyone else, and it would be such a shame to let what you're wearing spoil the enjoyment of a party. Have you got some funky jewellery or some pretty scarves that you could jazz the top up with? I'm sure that you have nothing to be at all embarrassed or ashamed of; I'm very fat, but my size doesn't define me because I try very hard not to let it. You are far more than just the size of clothes you wear.