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Am regretting new house...

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 21:55

I feel terrible. We've got a new home (lucky, should be over the moon with joy) but when I went to see it again today (the signing was yesterday), I wondered if we hadn't made a mistake. Too late now but feeling v. anxious. Any advice?

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jane313 · 16/03/2005 22:16

I think it takes a while for a house to be a home. You have to see your things in it and your children happy there first.

zippy539 · 16/03/2005 22:15

I'd have it blessed (even on the sly from dh ) if it makes you feel better. I'm not particularly religious or anything, I just think you should do whatever you have to in order to make yourself feel positive about the move.

Tommy · 16/03/2005 22:15

ionesmum is right - you have to make your house your home - and you will! Moving is so stressful - I felt the same when we moved here. It had all been so stresful before (buyers dropping out etc), we were arguing all the time and I just kept thinking that everything would be better once we were in the new house.....and it wasn't! Not straight away anyway - it takes time.
Hang in there

Evesmama · 16/03/2005 22:14

if it makes you feel better do it if only to put your mind at rest..thats not so daft is it

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 22:14

Yes, it was rude. I can't imagine doing something like that.

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nutcracker · 16/03/2005 22:14

I fe that when we moved here too, even after all the waiting and fighting to get it, it just felt wrong for a while.

jane313 · 16/03/2005 22:13

How rude of your friends sister.

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 22:11

I don't know, Evesmama. The new place is much bigger with tons of room for dd & ds for playing and now we can have friends & family to stay. It's also quite modern but boxy, IYSWIM. I love where we live now... it's a ground-floor flat in a very old and large farmhouse. It has an enormous garden, which is wonderful in the summer. It was the perfect home when dh & I were first married but now that we are 4, there's just not enough room. Then I was told by the mummy of one of dd's friends that the former owner (who she knows well) has a mental health problem. My friend's sister visited the house & had to leave immediately because it made her feel very unhappy. This doesn't help me at all! I asked dh this evening if we should have the house blessed & he said that was basically superstitious nonsense. He's probably right but...

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jampots · 16/03/2005 22:08

i felt the same when we moved into our house 10 years ago. We spent 14 months and several thousand pounds on it before we moved in and when we did i was just downright depressed (was also pregnant to be honest)

ionesmum · 16/03/2005 22:06

This happened to me when we moved here. I felt really low for a couple of months. Then I started to get to know people, made the house our home and now I love it - in fact I'm incredibly happy. I now believe it was all the stress of moving - it took 18 mo all told - that made me so down.

At the end of the day, a home is what the people who live in it make it.

Evesmama · 16/03/2005 22:00

why did you get the bad feeling?could it just be anxiety about the upheavel?