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Am regretting new house...

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 21:55

I feel terrible. We've got a new home (lucky, should be over the moon with joy) but when I went to see it again today (the signing was yesterday), I wondered if we hadn't made a mistake. Too late now but feeling v. anxious. Any advice?

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hub2dee · 17/03/2005 07:31

You can get pipework boxed in so it looks smart. Maybe even stick the boiler behind some kind of cupboard door (check required minimum distances and ventilation), and depending on the room layout, you could build some kind of fitted unit that integrates boiler / utility room sink / washing machine & dryer etc.

Light colours will make it look brighter, and you'll find that bamboo can probably survive perfectly in the space between your window and the opposite cement wall, giving you green, a bit of life, movement in the wind and a nice rustle to keep you company down there !!!

Last one and I'll shut up: Carefully positioned mirrors will reflect the little light you have, and can add extra, suprising, vistas to rooms.

jabberwocky · 17/03/2005 02:04

Do a cleansing with white sage incense. Carry it through the house and ask for positive energy and protection. Our house was previously occupied by a rather disturbed family - the son had a lot of drug problems. I did a blessing and never felt any bad vibes afterwards.

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 23:22

Oh no! And the boiler is down there! And all the pipes...

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 23:21

Hmmm... I'd already thought of putting a cd player/radio down there. Too bad there is no view from the window... just cement wall with a bit of light coming in from the top. Plants, maybe? Not plastic ones, tho. Very scary things, plastic plants.

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Evesmama · 16/03/2005 23:16

paint it too 'you're' liking..nice colours, put a hifi down there, lots of nice piccys on walls etc..so it feels just like any other paret of house

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 23:14

I was thinking of the basement, actually. I was so thrilled with the idea of never again having the dining table covered with laundry but I'm scared of the bloody basement!

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Evesmama · 16/03/2005 23:13

you have to invite us scaries first tho, we'll be sure to scare anone away

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 23:09

Okay! We'll have an MN housewarming. That would be so much fun & guaranteed to chase away any "scaries".

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Evesmama · 16/03/2005 23:04

yep thats a good idea, all your favourite people will set the right atmosphere, did in my last house weekend after we movedin

off to bed now, hope you feel better after coming on here and in mornning after nice sleepx

hub2dee · 16/03/2005 23:00

Throw a house warming party before you've sorted it all out with carpets and furniture etc. That'll give the place a new feel, and you'll get it over and done with instead of stalling for months on end.

Evesmama · 16/03/2005 22:57

yesoooh can i come and help to furnish it, sounds really exiting now
once youve got all your colours on the walls and floors and plenty of family piccys, it'll be great...it'll have you and your family in it, so there will be no bad vibes, just happy family ones

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 22:53

yes, and crystals. My mum bought me a book on Feng Shue (sp?) . I think it's an interesting concept, even if I can't spell or pronounce it.

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Evesmama · 16/03/2005 22:48

and dream catchers over the windows

ionesmum · 16/03/2005 22:48

sansouci . I'm glad. Enjoy your new home, I'm sure it will be perfect!

hub2dee · 16/03/2005 22:46

How about burning sage ? DW does that occasionally. I find it stinks but she insists it 'cleanses' the space.... Hmmm....

Also, maybe just ventilating it by throwing all the windows open for a few hours, or some kind of scented candle / air fresheners ?

I'm sure your family will bring new energy and chaos to the empty place !

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 22:43

I haven't been depressed for several years now thanks to ADs & therapy but have been diagnosed with "chronic depression" since the illness began when I was about 9.

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ionesmum · 16/03/2005 22:35

sorry, our posts crossed! Glad that the blessing idea is helpful, I love doing it with our dds, and you can do it as often as you like!

ionesmum · 16/03/2005 22:33

So it was weird. The bloke who lived here before us had bisexual orgies in the garden.

I'm really sorry to hear that you have depression, I had pnd so do understand a bit. So that must make it all harder. But it will come together, it just takes time. Hang on in there. I'd start with some nice warm paint on the walls!

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 22:29

that's a good idea, ionesmum. I would enjoy doing that! You are all so helpful & positive & brimming with good sense that I feel much better. Thank you all so much. MN to the rescue!

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jane313 · 16/03/2005 22:28

surely that would be the best mental health problem to have when buying a house from someone!

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 22:26

Yes but , I have mental health problems too. Depression, whereas the previous owner has some kind of need for everything to be perfectly clean & ordered. The entire house was furnished in white & cream, which sounds nice but actually seemed very cold. I thought they'd arranged it to look neutral for sales purposes but apparently it always looked like that. No pictures on the walls but there was a whiteboard in the kitchen with their 14 month old dd's schedule written out on it: "8:00 am, dd wakes up. 8:10 am, dd has breakfast, 8:45 am, dd pulls on left sock, etc." I exaggerate a little, but it was v. weird.

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ionesmum · 16/03/2005 22:23

You loved it at first. You will again. First reactions are nearly always the best guide.

BTW you don't have to get a priest in to bless your home, you can do it yourself. Just go from room to room, asking God to bless the people who use it and whatever happens there. So for example ask a blessing for food for the kitchen, restful sleep for a little one in their bedroom, for you and dh's relationship in your bedroom, and family harmony in the living room etc...

Evesmama · 16/03/2005 22:19

no your not, dont quote me but if you really really dont want to move you can backout(although im sure you will have to pay some costs?), but its better than spending tens of thousands isnt it?, i think youll be fine, i hate it where we are , but love my house but its took me a year and painting the bathroom to say that!

ionesmum · 16/03/2005 22:19

I'd go with the house blessing too, not so much to 'get rid' of anything as to welcome you into your new home. And agree that your friends' sister was very rude. And so what if a previous owner had mental health problems? You live there now.

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sansouci · 16/03/2005 22:16

Dh isn't that enthusiastic either but he's an Eeyore... always has been, always will be. I loved it at first but now can't imagine living there. Feel trapped. Guess I am now.

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