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Friend of 28 has died

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SPARKLER1 · 10/03/2005 00:33

Just come home from a night out and dh had a message for me to say a friend of mine has died at the weekend. She has been struggling with lung cancer for ages now and been through operations and chemo for it. It had spread to her bones. Apparently she was alone when she died as her dh was at work and son was with relatives. She was 28. I met her at ante-natal classes with dd1 and she has a ds of 5 who she has left behind. I feel so numb. I can't believe life can be so cruel to someone so young. Her poor little boy and poor dh (they have only been married a few months)

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 17:22

Sparker1 I found the link here for you

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SPARKLER1 · 10/03/2005 17:20

Spook - I would love to be able to see that article on the newspapr. I am a friend of hers from Bournemouth so unfortunately can't get the paper. Would it be possible to scan it or something for me to see? Not sure if I am going to get to the funeral on Monday though. Would love to go to say goodbye - but it's one heck of a trek to NUT and awkward to sort dds out.

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blueteddy · 10/03/2005 17:18

Really sorry to hear this sparkler.

amynnixmum · 10/03/2005 17:16

Oh Sparkler
{{{big hugs}}}
How are you today (apart from the sore head of course)

psychomum5 · 10/03/2005 17:13

sending my thoughts and many hugs..xxxxxxxxxxxx

How very sad for all those close to her, especially for her son.

cat82 · 10/03/2005 17:09

I'm so sorry Sparkler.
Thinking of you and her family xxxxxx

helsi · 10/03/2005 16:53

I am so sorry about your friend. I can't imagine how you and also her family will be feeling. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

northerner · 10/03/2005 16:50

Sparkler this new is so so sad. What ever I type doesn't sound right. So sorry

spook · 10/03/2005 16:48

SPARKLER1. Your friend is on the front page of the Newcastle Chronicle tonight. She looked gorgeous. I can't tell you how sorry I am. The feeling of unfairness when someone goes before their time is overwhelming. Lots of love XXX

LGJ · 10/03/2005 08:30

SPARKLER1

It happened to me, she was 19, in a dreadful car accident with three others, we had grown up together.

It will never go away, but it will get easier.

Much love

LGJ

JaysMum · 10/03/2005 08:27

Thinking of you.

Amanda3266 · 10/03/2005 08:07

Lung cancer at 28!!!!!! That's dreadful - what a young age.
Was she a smoker just out of interest? Not that it makes a difference really - even if she was 28 is still dreadfully young.
Thinking of her family
Thinking of you as well xx

Keane · 10/03/2005 08:04

sorry to hear that sparkler echo anorak that at least she was happy despite her life being cut short.

I lost my friend to cancer when she was 23 and my sister died when she was 21, so i know how horribly cruel life can be to the young

trinityrocks · 10/03/2005 08:00

{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

essbee · 10/03/2005 01:03

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Socci · 10/03/2005 00:53

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anorak · 10/03/2005 00:38

I'm glad she was happily married when she died. That is so much better than never having known that special feeling.

KristinaM · 10/03/2005 00:38

I dont know what to say....so sorry

anorak · 10/03/2005 00:37

Sorry to hear that sparkler. Life is cruel sometimes. I have lost many loved ones, some far too young.

You will not forget your friend, nor would you want to. No one can take away your memories, they are one of the most precious things a person can have.

I am sad to hear she died alone. I hope she was asleep perhaps, and wasn't actually aware at the time. Perhaps it was peaceful for her. We have to hope so. xxx