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dont know what to do

32 replies

nowayout · 27/01/2005 13:29

have had pnd depression for 18 months, no better after 4 lots of different ad's, have a cpn, and homestart 'helper' coming round...had my first hour away from dd on tues in 16 months and estranged mam has agreed to have dd once a week while shes asleep so me and dp can go to gym/swimming whatever...
but i fel so so down, crying all the time, snapping, shouting at dd, cant 'control her' even though she's normally good, she's either playing me up or im not handling her well...i dont want to do anything other than sleep or sit on here when dd is craving my attention, dont get dressed most days until dp due in and have no interest in anything..me and dp either argue or dont talk, i feel we have grown so far apart, but dont know where to begin to sort anyhting out.
i feel swamped and everything is spiralling out of control.
im not after sympathy..dont know what i want, i just want to feel normal again, but how do i start?

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sozie · 27/01/2005 14:06

I haven't experienced pnd but I can remember having low days when both of mine were little especially over the winter months. It is easy to fall into a pattern of not getting dressed till dinner time, if at all, in the winter without having pnd to cope with. I used to plan something for every day to make me get up and out, dressed but maybe not washed sometimes. At least we were out for a bit of the day and it didn't seem so long till dh came home and the children enjoyed themselves. I hope thing improve for you soon

kernowcat · 27/01/2005 14:05

Dps away on business this week and we've not spoken since Sunday.I know he's busy and probably just enjoying the peace and calm!

ebbie22 · 27/01/2005 14:03

I havent got much understanding of how you are feeling,but my sister suffers from depression and i know its not as simple as just getting on your coat and going out....My heart goes out to you as i understand the way you must be feeling
Did you ever feel down before you had your children?

munnzieb · 27/01/2005 14:03

you alright there hon?

kernowcat · 27/01/2005 14:02

Have so many mums always felt like this do you think?
It helps to know I'm not alone, is there anyone for our DPs to talk to I know mine is getting fed up with my moods and says he doesn't know which girl he is going to come home to. Maybe if he could talk to other DPs it would help him to know hes not alone either????

Evesmama · 27/01/2005 13:57

thanks, did that this morning, was going to stay in as dd been wingy(or me being ratty?), but had to go for dd's dry skin cream, so made myself an app and asked doc to sort out ad's, he's changed them again! i just dont know when ill feel like me again, if i ever will. i feel like im living in a bubble and really dont feel like doing anything

kernowcat · 27/01/2005 13:52

Theres alot of support here it helps so much I feel like you alot of days. Use the support around you and when you do have time for the two of you try to do something you will enjoy and maybe will make you laugh?
I found when mine we're younger if it was all getting too much I put them in the pram and go for a walk, it's hard to be cross with your child in public and the fresh air used to calm me to.
Sorry its not much help but just know your not alone.