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How much longer do I have to feel like this?

365 replies

Depressedmum32 · 14/10/2004 10:29

Can some one give some advice please, I just recently gave birth to my 4th baby and for the rist month I felt fantastic and was flying round doing everything. Iwas so wired that one night I was cleaning my windows at 5am after feeding ds!!!Then I started to feel ill, like I had the flu, kept feelomg dizzy and this went on for couple of weeks before I collapsed with chest pain and was rushed to hospital. Was told I had a blood clot on my ling and spent the whole weekend feeling hysterical, had to stop breastfeeding as I was on blood thinners. Cried cos I missed my children so much and thought I was going to die. Then they told me I had no blood clot just pleurisy and sent me home. I first felt relieved to be home and with children but after a couple of days I started to have Panic attacks for no reason, I was just suddenly get this rush of fear and feel terrified. Then I started waking up in the night with my heart racing hystarical with fear, so eventually I was on;y getting 1 hours sleep a night. During the day I was sitting around thinking of all the things I could drop dead from and then 2 weeks ago I suddenly felt wierd, A sense of unreality which terrified me even more. Kept going to the docs where they diagnosed pnd and prescribed ad's. Referred to cpn but no appt till oct 26th. Refused to take the ad's as I was so scared of all the possible awful side effects and convinced myself I just needed to sleep.Dh took a few days off work and I did feel a bit better after getting some rest in the day, but sleep at night. non existant. When I did go to sleep, I kept having awful dreams and waking up. Hv came on monday and said I had to take the cipralex just to lift me enough to the things that would make me feel better.Started on 5mg as Isuffer from panic and immediately the panic became worse, so the second night could only get to sleep with the aid of sleeping tabs. I am now day 4 and I feel wrethched, nauseas and panicky, still feel dazed as though I am not really here and that frightens me. Didnt feel depressed until I started to feel wierd, its the wierdness the t depresses me, is this normal pnd? I just want to feel human again.

OP posts:
Spacecadet · 09/11/2004 13:18

oh god feel oput of it today!! must be the ads!! Slept better last night.

kizzie · 09/11/2004 11:29

Hi SC - glad you had a positive meeting with the CPN and that they are going to help you.
Hope today going a bit better.
Kizziex

mumwithnoname · 09/11/2004 07:36

Hope you're feeling better today SC and T!
Got a fun day ahead- seeing counsellor this morning, then going to a friends, mums funeral, then got a hep injection (for work), then I've got to take my 6yr old to rugby training while at the same time getting my 16 yr old to colledge for an open evening and getting back in time for a meeting at 8 ARGHHH!!!!!

mumwithnoname · 08/11/2004 22:51

Just sending you a big {{{{hug}}}}!! Art therapy sounds really good- used to do a lot of painting B.C.( before children!) Take care.

Spacecadet · 08/11/2004 19:25

I am just writing off the last few days, saw cpn today im being referred to see a pschyciatrist and im being sent to anxiety management satrting this Friday, also they are picking me up and taking me to mums and babies AND I have to start the art therapy group. I am now on a new ad , an old style one( trycyclic) called dopiethin.

kizzie · 08/11/2004 16:10

Space Cadet - Sorry you're having such a horrible day. IME - bad days can feel so much worse when youve had a few better ones. Almost like you cant believe how bad it can be. Try and be as kind as possible to yourself and if at all possible try and write it off as a bad day rather than worrying that its the start of a down turn.
Hope tomorrow is much much better.
Kizziex

Lonelymum · 08/11/2004 12:22

It's Monday morning SC. Doesn't that fact alone make you feel worse? It does me. Every Sunday evening, I sigh and think, "And so I face another week..." It seems to get harder and harder. I had a big talk with dh this morning as he didn't have to leave for work until later than usual. I'm not sure it got me anywhere, but at least I said how I was feeling.

mumwithnoname · 08/11/2004 11:20

Arghh! The water people have just phoned to tell me they will be down this afternoon even though we told them that I was in work at 12-30 Grrrr

mumwithnoname · 08/11/2004 11:13

Hope the cpn visit was helpful SC. Still waiting for the water people to fix my leak, hope they come soon as I'm in work at 12-30!

MummyToSteven · 08/11/2004 10:12

Hi SC, sorry you are having a tough morning. I know apart from being damn scary it must be such a disappointment when you are desperate to get better when things like that happen. even when you are getting better it's not an all or nothing thing - just that the bad days get less and less frequent. i think you having been doing an amazing job keeping going in such a difficult position; I do feel strongly that you have been left stranded without effective treatment. I hope that your CPN visit is useful to you. Pleurisy is a very tiring disease at the best of times; i have heard that it does take a while to feel 100% phyiscally even after the symptoms have stopped. problem is of course that getting lots of rest and a tiny baby tend to be mutually exclusive.

now i'm racking my brains to think of anything that could help with the panic symptoms; i can only think of the obvious stuff - trying to control breathing/breathing into a paper bag, lying down, essential oils, visualising yourself in a safe place.

mumwithnoname · 08/11/2004 10:03

I emailed you with a big moan before I saw this SC.
Sorry you're feeling so crap, but you sound as if you've had some better days so maybe it's just an odd bad one, I think we are very up and down when we're getting over depression.My counsellor tells me to write off the bad days and just enjoy the good ones!! Not all that easy though is it?

{{{hug}}}

Spacecadet · 08/11/2004 09:38

Im so upset, i thought i was getting better but i seem to be getting worse, the panic has come back as have the unreal feelings, i feel likwe im in a waking nightmare with no way out

mumwithnoname · 06/11/2004 20:27

Gonna curl up with wine and chocolate- all out at the rugby and I think I deserve it-had a crap week!!!!

mumwithnoname · 06/11/2004 13:50

Thanks its good to know that the end may be in sight!!!

amynnixmum · 06/11/2004 12:28

I had panic attacks with the first ad i was prescribed. When i changed to venlaflaxine things were much better and after a year on them i was able to stop taking them and the depression hasn't come back - over a year now! Big hugs anyone who is feeling that low.

Spacecadet · 06/11/2004 12:23

sorry to hear that

mumwithnoname · 06/11/2004 10:03

Thanks SC. Feeling a bit wobbly here ATM!

Spacecadet · 06/11/2004 08:21

its best to start on a low dose mwnn because that particular ad is a lot stronger, than cipralex, but is more effective at treating more serious cases of depression and anxiety.I think cipralex is one of the few ads that cause tha awful panic symptons initially, you may not get it this time with the new ad

mumwithnoname · 06/11/2004 00:21

Fire works still going off here too!!
Feling better today, Had long chat to friends this morning (along with coffee and cake!), GPs changing my ADs to Venlafaxine, but got to come off the cipralex this week, have a break for 4 days, then start new tabs on 1/2 dose for a week b4 coming upto full strength- seems a long time off- prob be totally insane by then (plus dh working away for the next few weeks!!)

jampot · 05/11/2004 22:44

SC - sorry your having such a crap time right now - and the same to mumwithnoname. I hope you start to feel much better soon.

Spacecadet · 05/11/2004 22:34

Thanks, mts, im not having a good time at the mo, felt utterly desperate and actually suicidal, felt immense fear and not sleeping at all.Spoke to the gp today who has put me back on the tranqs(just for a week he said) and sleeping tabs (again for a week) he reckons that it could just be that my sleep patterns been dissrupted and that hopefully I will sleep better and then in turn I will feel a bit more human.Feel dreadful this evening and to make matters worse, one of my neighbours is now letting off fireworks at 10.30!! how bloody inconsiderate, ds2 who is only 3 has now woken up from the noise, ill be glad when this weekend is all over.

MummyToSteven · 05/11/2004 22:05

Hi SC, just wondered how you were doing, and to let you know I was thinking of you (god I sound just like a greeting card there!)

mumwithnoname · 03/11/2004 20:36

Totally exhausted. not slept much for last 5 nights. had the biggest headach in the world since weekend. feel pretty crap!! But now talking to both friends though nothing resolved. Hopfully sort it out on Friday though I think I'm gonna come off worse!! One good thing- lost weight and can get in the jeans that were too tight last week!!
(oh and saved a fortune in text bill!!)

Spacecadet · 02/11/2004 19:16

Crap,! crap! crap! sinus infection, chest infection, no sleep, cant breathe.anti biotics, allergic to them, phone docs no appt till thurs, no anti biotics till thursday, ugly rash all over.in agony, face feels like it might explode, as does chest.THE END!![ANGRY]

Lonelymum · 01/11/2004 13:29

Let her say it and have a good cry at what she says (in front of her) and I am sure if she is any sort of friend, she will feel sorry for what has happened and mend some bridges.