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Noisy hotel sex. Why?

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Tiredthismorning · Today 12:50

Why do people have such noisy sex in hotels? I have just got home from a wedding yesterday, after which I stayed in a hotel. The couple in the next room had vocal sex at 2am and again at 8am. Proper shrieks and moans and grunts and words that I could hear through the wall from both of them, for a good half an hour both times.

Have your fun by all means. But why make so much noise?? I know hotel rooms are private but hotels aren't, especially not in the middle of the night.

AIBU to think it's no less selfish (and quite a bit more unreasonable) than keeping other guests up with music or any other noise. It's not the first time I've been kept awake like this.

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MrsDoylesLastTeabag · Today 19:33

SusieSussex · Today 14:26

Knowing that kids stay in hotels and will be able to hear it and still enjoying being noisy is very weird.

I personally hate other people making any kind of noise that disturbs my peace in any context, but the focus on sex and children in this thread is a red herring.

People getting it on are REALLY not thinking about your children (unless they have a rare paraphilia). Your children, of whose existence they have no knowledge, are simply not the focus of other people's every action. Shocking, right?!

DebbieSavage · Today 19:38

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DebbieSavage · Today 19:39

MrsPapillon · Today 19:11

If you’re not a Turkish man I’ll eat my fez.

How dare you, I am just a clanger that lives on the moon.

Noisy hotel sex. Why?
AleaEim · Today 19:41

Sex is way better when you can let go and be noisy, I find it hard to cum when I need to be quiet personally, everyone’s different.

Scandelabra · Today 19:46

Just a recommendation for women on this thread based on prior bad experiences, best to keep your PMs turned off.

ReadingSoManyThreads · Today 19:49

Scandelabra · Today 19:03

Sorry, I thought you were a man because of the comments telling women they need to find someone to give them ‘uncontrollable and involuntary noisy orgasms’ and suggesting that women don’t ‘enjoy sex’ if they don’t want to hear it loudly in a hotel. It was just that familiar tone. Woman, then. 🤷‍♀️

Thanks for the apology, however, you've twisted what I actually said somewhat!

ReadingSoManyThreads · Today 19:54

Skeeterinamber · Today 18:54

You can enjoy sex without wailing like a Banshee so the poor bastards in the room next door have to hear it. It’s performative.

But noisy sex doesn't always mean wailing like a Banshee. I mean, occasionally, when sex is amazing and I've totally let go, I get noisy, but I've never wailed like a banshee or been performative. I've been lost in the moment, an amazing moment and been uncontrollably noisy.

There absolutely can be a difference between someone being performatively loud, and just naturally in the moment loud.

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